2006-11-08 05:58:37 · 32 answers · asked by MaggieJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So do I confront him? Or can I expect him to say whatever he can to keep me? Okay...so a resounding "dump him"...so if I wanted to clue in his wife...what exactly do I say?
2006-11-08 09:59:43 · update #1
I didn't know he was married...I just happened to find out...I've been seeing him for about 7 months, but it was a long distance relationship so I didn't see him all the time. I haven't confronted him yet because I won't see him for another week, if I do call his wife...what in the world do I say? How do I hand over this kind of information? Do I answer her questions? Do I do it anonymously?
2006-11-08 14:57:47 · update #2
Call his wife up and tell her! wouldn't you want to know?
2006-11-08 06:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get rid ot that ************. When you mess with a married man you are not only disrespecting yourself you are disobeying God. You may hurt an innocent wife. You are also committing adultery. Women need to start respecting each other and there would be less hearts broken. Just leave it alone completely, because you reap what you sow and if you ever get married it may come back to bite you in the ***. Not to say that your spouse will never be unfaithful. Save his wife the hurt if anything. If he has lied to you how many more women do you think he have lied to. CUT THE CORD ON THAT NOW!!!! Take care and find yourself a SINGLE MAN. Good luck to you.
2006-11-08 06:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you already know the answer to this question but we all need reminding once and a while when temptation sets in and we want to rationalize-away the truth about something we KNOW IS WRONG FOR US!!
This guy is already cheating on YOU as well as his family and his wife. Are you not worthy of better? Of course you are! Don't have ANY MORE contact with this joker ! If he gets out of control, then tell his wife but don't tell him you will do it beforehand.(She probably knows already on some level). Ask yourself this: How would you feel to discover that this bum was cheating on you after you married him? Like I said, you already KNOW the answer to your own question! LOL
2006-11-08 06:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bijous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to know what to do? I think you know what to do and you are just needing the extra courage to do it because you really like this guy. Please understand that if he was as good a guy as he is going to portray himself to be as soon as you confront him about it, then he wouldn't be cheating on his wife. He will probably give you the ol' boo hoo story of how terrible his wife treats him and never gives him sex and he's starved for attention and she cheats on him and anything else he can conjure up to make you stick around. Don't hit yourself in the head and wonder why you have a headache my friend. Get out and get out now. Don't worry about sad ol' him, let him find someone else to boo hoo to cuz you're too smart to know better...
2006-11-08 06:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married as in living with his wife, or married as in going through a divorce that is not yet final? My divorce took three years so I just want to clarify. If he is married and living with her (she thinks they are together) I would tell him to go kick rocks. Also - how did you find out? That should tell you a lot about him. If he is able to cheat on her, he would surely do the same to you. You deserve better.
2006-11-08 06:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by Carey L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends...do you want to marry him now? If so, ask him to divorce his wife now. If you and he are not so serious, then you may want to just relax and enjoy the relationship. Obviously, you and he enjoy each others company, so you can continue to do that without any problem. You don't know what is his relationship with his wife unless you ask him. Apparently she is not doing something right at home or he would not have hooked up with you. Relax, it will all work itself our in the end.
2006-11-08 06:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let's just say if he dumped his wife for you wouldn't you think he would cheat on you once a cheater always a cheater your just something on the side in his mind something if he does not get at home he would go get it from you and go back home to the wife he loves don't be a fool i would tell the wife
2006-11-08 06:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by and687 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't tell you he was married then what else hasn't he told you? Did you ever ask him or just take it for granted that he was single? You can't have a relationship thats based on lies & deceit. Get out of this relationship as soon as possible!
2006-11-08 06:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Txfroggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was first shocked and ready to send him to hell.
but then ,which unfortunately doesn't happen in normal cases,married guy,single girl,he was really in love with me,we had four wonderful years,the best in my life he did divorce,but we never got married,him or me,due to war in my country,it has been
many years,he is still the love of my life,which happens once only. Like Ithe french singer Edith Piaf said,better to die from love
than to live without love.all my best
2006-11-08 06:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by asso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, then call his wife! We women need to stand by other women, she deserves to know, wouldnt you want someone to do the same for you?
2006-11-08 06:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U leave him...just think about it, do you want to be seen as more to someone than just the mistress? He couldn't possibly have any respect for you or his wife....or wemon at all for that matter. You want to be someones one and only do you not? It is very disrespectful of him to assume that it is okay for him to do that to you and her. And I bet he is not the one that told you about it is he?
2006-11-08 06:05:56 · answer #11 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋