My boyfriends mom is angry that we want and are moving in together we are supposed to be in our own place within 15 days shes very upset with us which than makes him stress and that makes me stress and than second guess it....i love him to death and we will be amazing once were finally in there but this is crazy he's 24 it's time to cut the apron strings how do i try and convince her it's going to be ok and for her to relax i love her to death she's like a mom to me but she's making the moving process more stressful that it already is!
2006-11-08 05:56:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give it time. if he's the only child, it will be hard for her at first. My husband is his mom's only child and trust me i've seen sides of her that i though never existed. she hated it when we moved in together and thought that it wouldn't last and then we got engaged and she thought there was something behind it like I was pregnant, then as the wedding got closer and closer, she totally changed and started getting me super cool gifts on christmas and birthdays. she used to just give my $100 cash and give my husband $500 in gifts, but now, she actually accepts me as a daughter. mother's are really attatched to their sons. the tradition of he will take care of me when i'm older runs around in their heads. I don't know why. but it will get better, you just have to show her on a continual basis that you and him are GREAT together, you take care of eachother and you're happy. I used to get my mother in law gifts and bake stuff and have her over to our apartment for 4 course gourmet diners and stuff. it totally worked. my husband used to be blind to all of the mean things that she used to do and i finally had to si him down and give him examples and MAKE him see. of course he will always be mom's boy, but you have to make both of them see that he is your MAN now. hope this helps. Good luck, don't worry it will get better.
2006-11-08 06:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by AnneeMoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 24 so if your close to his age then this should be alright. But if you are too much younger or older than him this might be what is bothering her. Also she may not think that you two will make it on your own and come crying back to her for financial help etc. Whatever the problem is you need yourself to sit down with this woman and find out for yourself what it is that she is finding so upsetting. She will respect you for approaching you and hopefully you two will have a mature and honest conversation and put each others minds at ease.
2006-11-08 14:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that his mother's disapproval stresses your boyfriend is not a good sign. Why do you have to convince her it's going to be ok - does she think you're going to smother her precious baby boy in his sleep? You won't be "amazing" once you have your own place. You'll just be dealing with this crap at a new address.
2006-11-08 14:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is like a mother to you, I would try to talk to her.
If that doesn't work, over time, seeing you make her son happy will make her forget why she was upset in the first place.
2006-11-08 14:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be doing the "convincing"... It's his job to interface with his mother. If he can't handle it right now, it will only get worse in the future, and does not bode well for your relationship.
2006-11-08 14:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not up to you to take care of the situation, its his. If he cant stand up to his mother now then know that you will have to deal with her probably the whole time your with him.
2006-11-08 14:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋