2006-11-08 05:45:33 · 12 answers · asked by depressedinsc2341 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you ask yourself, "If I were to meet him tomorrow as a stranger, would I date him?" - and the answer is no.
2006-11-08 05:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently got divorced after 8 years of marriage. I was in love when I married him but over time the total lack of communication and his temper ate away at my feelings for him. I stayed for the longest time because it was easy and comfortable. We were like roomates and companions. There was no sexual life at all and I preferred it that way. I knew that I didn't love him anymore when I had truly tried everything and I mean everything (even crazy stuff) to fix the relationship. but it still didn't make me want to make love to him, want to have a family with him or even to try to make him smile anymore. I enjoyed being alone rather then being with him and the fact that my heart hurt so bad out of lonliness was a great indicator that I was open to meeting other people and moving on. You know deep down if you are not in love and I not talking about goo goo first love stuff but real love for that person. Even though the times may be hard for you two, if you still don't want anyone else? Then it's the real thing. Hang in there I know it's a hard question to ask yourself.
2006-11-08 14:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by alegramia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for me, it was about 3 years of alchoholic temper flare-ups that finally came to blows, that let me know loving him was not the same as being in love with him.
when his name comes to mind, does a good thought or bad thought come with it?
are you happy to see him?
does he respect you as much as you respect him?
does he treat you as his equal
or
do you get exited at the thought of him going to work for the day so you can have some piece and quiet?
do you stay angry with him over things you don't talk about?
stuff like that.
2006-11-08 13:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you never have to think about this question.
Remember marriage is SUPPOSED to be forever and for better and for worsts.
So, before you start to think about that, ask yourself what is missing in your life. Is it sex? Try something new - install mirrors near the bed. Is it romance? Try going out somewhere romantic. Is it this/that - try making changes in your life or his to make things better.
It is always fixable! Unless you have cheated. Then ....
Good luck.
2006-11-08 13:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by The Ultimate Nerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then I think you know that you're not in love anymore.....I think love is something that is always 'there' and you either are in love or out. No in between
2006-11-08 13:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by ~CountryGirl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweet i feal ya on this one,1.don't hold you
2 you watch TV in other room
3.you don't talk.
4 it is like you are invisible to him
5.he only wants sex when he want s it.
6.never says i love you
7.where did all the sweet complements go.
theses are many that i have gone threw
2006-11-08 13:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not in love, you should leave him before going into a relationship with someone else.
I can destroy someone who really loves you. First girl i was with was 7 years and had a 4 year old kid with her. she cheated on me and made it hard to ever trust anyone again.
2006-11-08 13:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by kevin02915 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you come on here and ask everyone elses opinion about your relationship. If you don't know, then your not in love.
2006-11-08 13:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you pose that question to a group of complete strangers, you are not in love any more.
2006-11-08 13:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by brews 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have to ask yourself that question sweetie. Aww I'm sorry. Maybe you guys need to talk.
2006-11-08 14:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by izy966 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋