Here is my situation. My big sis pretends to be a caring born again christian. But she is a fake & I am an idiot to keep confiding in her about my problems. She caused major problems between my mother & I. She told my mother all kinds of lies about me & my mom got confused & almost believed her. I moved to west coast to be closer to my sis & help her & her kids out. She & her husband borrowed 7 grand from me & hasn't paid back most of the money. She made me buy anything she asked for for her & her kids all the time. I slaved my self by cooking & cleaning for her even bought her groceries. But mom got the impression that I was sleeping around, I was an alcoholic & went to srip clubs. But I'm a good Catholic Virgin. I moved back to Midwest to be with mom. Now I am getting maried soon & my sis is my maid of honer cause she wanted to be in the wedding & her kids are flower girls & are exited to be. My sis hates my fiance. She lied again this time to me about mom. Now my mom is mad at me.
2006-11-08 05:43:17 · 5 answers · asked by Hot C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would stop trying to fight a losing battle. after you get married distance yourself from your sister. leave her to take care of her family herself and don't bail her out.
ignore her. you have your own family to take care of and you don't need her to ruin that for you.
your mom will come around. show her who was being honest by leading by example.
2006-11-08 05:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, there seems to be a lot going on. You obviously love your sister but it seems like you two really need to work some things out. You need to be honest with her - the sooner the better- about your feelings and hopefully she will be honest about hers. At some point you will have to decide if you will be able to maintain a close relationship with your sister or not. Sometimes people just can't work out their differences, and I guess sisters are not exception. But I hope that the two of you can hash it all out, even if it means a few tears and sleepless nights. My sister is my best friend in the world and it would really be sad if the two of you can't work things out.
2006-11-08 05:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her immediately. Why put it off if that is true and that is how you feel. My sis used to do the same thing to me and I finally got sick of it after so many times and told her to f*** off and not to ever contact me ever again. My life is much calmer and happier for it too because she was so shady and was constantly causing problems.
2006-11-08 05:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her! Prayer is very powerful. Read "Power of a Praying Woman" by Stormie Omartian. Very good book.
I pray the best for you & your sister.
God Bless!
2006-11-08 09:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
about the same time you decide to not let her walk all over you.
2006-11-08 05:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋