To help deal with my divorce my counselor suggested I list all the good things that come with no longer being married to my ex. We were having problems - typical problems for a 13 year relationships (or at least that is what I beleived). We did not spend enough time together, we were so busy that we forgot to work on our relationship, we took each other for granted, we both had needs that were not being met. I was committed to my marriage and our son and thought we could work these problems out through counseling. He had an affair with a co-worker and is now moving in with her. This was his second affair. So, help me out - what are the benefits of no longer being married to this guy?
2006-11-08 05:31:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Benefits are that he will no longer be cheating on you, but will in all probability cheat on this new woman that he is moving on with eventually. Another benefit is that you are capable of finding a new person to share you and your son's life with someday. A third benefit is that your child does not have to live with the tension that most certainly he was feeling prior to you and your husband splitting. And finally you can now feel good about yourself now as there are many new horizons awaiting you when you are ready. Best of luck to you and your son.
2006-11-08 05:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The benefits.. where to begin? First , you now know what YOU can do as a single mom and ex-wife.Second, you can give your son a great stable home without worrying about where your husband is! Third, you have determined that living with the man you married is worse than not!
All that said, just remember that for years before him you were happy as a single person.Also, who really wants to be with a person that will not be satisfied with YOU being the only one for them.With YOU having to sit at home wondering "IF" he's going to be home or if he does "SHOULD I WEAR A CONDOM" LOL
So, now that things are done ,or getting there, just try to remember what makes you happy and makes every day better than the day before.For if you don't love and cherish yourself who will?
2006-11-08 13:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by HENRY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you no longer have to deal with his infidelity. You can start your life over, have fun, go date. If you get into another relationship, you know the mistakes of the last one and not make them again. Understand, though, his cheating wasn't your fault, no matter how much time you didn't spend together. He could've been as strong and as dedicated as you. But in the next one try to make time, and if you can't whatever time you do spend make it special. You have the opportunities single people have, they don't have to answer to anyone if they want to do anything, don't know if you cooked and cleaned for him, if you did you don't have to now. You have more time for you.
2006-11-08 13:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered them for yourself. In a nutshell: No more drama. You won't realize this until your farther away from it, than you'll wonder why you were ever worried about it.
As Walt Disney once said: "Although it may not seem like it at the time, sometimes a swift kick in the teeth is exactly what you need."
2006-11-08 13:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM!!!!! A man without honor -sounds old fashioned but it is a valid code - is not someone you want your child to emulate. Your son needs to learn to respect women. You are training his behaviour towards females in the future. I hope you respect yourself too much to want a cheater back. If you don't respect yourself, how will your son learn to respect women. You are his female role model!
By the way, teach him how to vacuum, do laundry and cook basics and you'll be revered by his future wife. You can't start too soon!
2006-11-08 13:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO STD'S. NO WONDERING WHERE THE PERSON IS. NO MORE FIGHTING FOR SOMETHING THAT BOTH PARTIES ARE NOT FIGHTING FOR. NO MORE COUNSELING FEES. YOU HAVE YOURSELF BACK. MORE TIME TO DEDICATE TO YOUR SON. MAYBE YOU CAN GO BACK TO SCHOOL OR VOLUNTEER
2006-11-08 13:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by lewbislew 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer having to feel like crap all the time, no longer having to worry if he's faithful, no longer having to compare yourself to other women to see if you measure up, etc!
2006-11-08 13:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will be able to move on with your life and maybe find someone who appreciates you.
2006-11-08 13:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dignity???? He cheating on you twice he has no respect for you.
2006-11-08 13:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by bifgrl31 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how are we supposed to know...we weren't there!!!
2006-11-08 13:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋