My husband is getting on my nerves about getting a job. I recently got laid off and I realized something. Why doesn't he just find a job that pays more? He has an opportunity to go overseas and make 80,000 a year tax free and I think he should take it to support us. What do you think?
2006-11-08 05:27:35 · 17 answers · asked by Elizabeth W 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
Please join the rest of us in the modern world, the wonderful world of the 21st century.
I can see how much you love him, so much so that you want him nowhere near you. Either get a job or get a divorce and find some idiot who is willing to put up with your nonsense.
2006-11-08 05:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by This Is Not Honor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's the man's job to make the money, then it's your job to be the obedient housewife who cleans house all day and has dinner waiting on the table when he gets home. It would also be your job to take care of the children and make sure they don't bother your husband after he's had a hard day at work. In addition, you would be required to be at his sexual beck and call, regardless of how you feel, and in all household decisions that have to be made you would defer to his judgment every time (not to mention the fact that you would never question him or argue with him).
So you have a choice: Either you sit back and become the perfect little Stepford Wife or you suck it up and get a job. Tough choice, huh?
2006-11-08 13:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you expect your husband to be the only one working? Aren't you at all considering his happiness? Perhaps he likes his current job, and does not wish to work overseas. Why don't you want to get a job? Chances are it is for the same reason your husband doesn't want to take the other one. Don't be selfish, think about your husband's needs and wants. What if he wanted to quit and have you make all the money? Doesn't feel nice, does it?
2006-11-08 13:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful what you ask for by placing you and your spouse in male/ female roles. If it is your man's place to earn the money then does he get to define your role as wife?
GET A JOB AND BE A HELPMATE. That is what both male and females are---HELPERS of the other. Stop worrying about roles and worry about how to help support your family. If you want to stay home and take care of the house then talk to your husband and explain that is what you would like to do. See if he is willing to compromise with a part time job or maybe you could work part time to supliment your income.
2006-11-08 13:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful what you wish for, sometimes the grass is not always greener on the other side, now a days both the husband & the wife half to work to make ends meet ,
since everything is so exspensive. Perhaps if you got a PART TIME job that would keep you & him happy, good luck.
2006-11-08 13:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you stop all of you bloody spending and keep your husband with you. Why are you trying to get rid of your husband. Is all that you care about money. Surely you can cut back on a few things so that you husband don't have to make a drastic change. That is what a good wife would do.
2006-11-08 13:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! This isn't the 50's ... and you aren't June Cleaver. Years ago, women stayed home and took care of the children and the house while the men went out and earned the money. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way anymore. Most households need two incomes to make it in this economy.
If you're ever at the library, check out this book ... "The Two Income Trap" ...
http://www.amazon.com/Two-Income-Trap-Middle-Class-Mothers-Fathers/dp/B0002TP1IU/sr=8-1/qid=1163010616/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-7780966-0682227?ie=UTF8&s=books
2006-11-08 13:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bonny K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt all on the man to make money. Women should put in an equal amount of effort to support themselves. And... men dont always have to be that dominant. Its crazy to think men are number one and have to have the money. Women are and should be treated just as importantly
2006-11-08 13:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my book it works like this:
If Im supporting the household financially 100%, the female is doing everything else (cooking, cleaning, errands, etc.)
If the female is supporting the household financially 100%, I am doing everything else (cooking, cleaning, errands, etc.)
If we are both working and supporting the household we are sharing household responsibilities 50/50.
If Im in another country making $80K/yr tax free and my wife is here in the states, shes either going to be working to support herself of working on that divorce paperwork!!!
2006-11-08 13:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would rather your husband leave the country then you go get a job? How sad is that!
2006-11-08 13:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋