I have a pretty open family, so no, I have not suffered any kind of prejudice. No, I did not regreat living with my hubby before we got married, in fact, I'm glad I did. It's as close to marriage as you can get. You just have a legal obligation to them after you marry, so it is somewhat different. I would suggest to my son that he lives with the girl he wants to marry before doing so. You learn so much being around someone 24/7. Even if you hang out at the other's house everyday... It's different
2006-11-08 05:28:01
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answered by zaniest1 2
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Yes I lived with my first husband several years before we got married and yes everyone drove me insane with you need to be married BS. We are now divorced. I just purchased a house with my boyfriend that I have been dating for 2 years and have no plan on getting married. The only people I hear that this isn't good is from my grandmother. I believe that in today's world getting the ring and paper isn't a commitment that it should be and that people are realizing that. Do what is right for you and don't let anyone push you into a marriage you may regret.
I believe that if you are committed to that person is what counts the ring and document isn't going to keep a marriage together if the people involved don't want it too. I think that not being married you find ways to keep what you have alive, but this is from my experience.
2006-11-08 05:51:06
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answered by mudd_grip 4
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Did not suffer prejudice.
Of course, 1st marriage.
E/one has regrets of a past mistake. But not something to dwell on.
Yes, got married after 2 years of living together. Because HE wanted to. I did not want to ruin a great relationship.
Vast differences between living together, and being married.
Legalities within marriage. However, marriage destroys the relationship.
My own personal opinion.
2006-11-08 05:34:04
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answered by iyamacog 7
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I am currently living with my fiance, and I have suffered prejudice from my family and the church for it. I'm not really sure if I regret it, though; I don't think you really know a person until you've lived with them for a while and have had all those petty arguments about changing the toilet paper roll, decorating, and cleaning the house/apartment. It has helped me to realize exactly what my life will be like when I get married, because from what I hear, not much changes. My fiance and I dated for about 4 years before we moved in together, though, because that's not a situation you want to jump into with just anyone. I get a lot of grief from my dad especially about the issue, about how this is one of many things I've done to "shame" the family name. That makes me feel like I made the wrong decision...but then again, I think if we had gotten married before living together, there would be a lot more problems waiting for us down the road because we wouldn't have had those experiences yet. It's all personal preference, I suppose...society shouldn't judge a person for doing what she thinks is best in her situation.
2006-11-08 05:35:17
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answered by Persephone 6
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I lived with my husband for about a year before we got engaged; we got married 4 months after our engagement. There was never any prejudice, it's such a common thing it's hardly ever noticed anymore. I never regretted anything. I moved in with him only 3 months after meeting him, it just kinda "happened", it "felt" right; we were spending all of our time together anyway. It's kinda like marriage in a sense that you run a household in a very similar way that a married couple would. But to me it wasn't quite like marriage - being that we both wanted to get married one day, NOT being married felt "unfinished", like there's still a way out. Marriage solidified our relationship. Plus, marriage brought all kinds of practical benefits, from tax breaks to sharing health insurance. Also, our finances and bills were completely separate before marriage.
2006-11-08 05:34:37
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answered by Anonymous
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My husband and I have been together 12 years now and married for only 2. Living with someone first may save a lot of stress later in the relationship.
2016-05-21 22:12:21
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answered by Anonymous
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Other people don't really seem to care. I am glad I did it though. I never lived with my ex-husband and about 30 days after we got married I knew I had made a mistake. The next time I wanted to get married I decided to live with the guy first. It wasn't long before I knew it would never last. I threw in the towel after 5 years and he is married now and making his wife miserable! We are still friends, but our relationship was never meant to be. I would have had to get a second divorce. I will never get married again unless I live with the person first.
2006-11-08 05:29:58
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answered by justcurious 3
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I have been living with my fiancee for 10 months now, we are getting married next year. I don't see anything wrong with it and noone has ever said anything to me. We live like any married couple would, we discuss finances and everything that goes along with being together. I think it helps out to get to know how a person really is before you get married. I am learning his moods and how he runs his finances. I have learned his quirks and everything. We are together all the time except when we are working or he is in the woods. I even go to deer camp with him. It has made our relationship strong. We really consider ourselves married, just without that piece of paper.
2006-11-08 05:59:01
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answered by la_southern_femme 4
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I lived with my husband before we got married and it did not sit well with my off the boat Italian grandparents....why buy the cow when you get the milk for free. I think living with someone before marriage works you get to see each other as your really are. We lived together for a year and then got married and to tell you the truth I myself did not see any difference except the last name change and the ring.....
2006-11-08 05:31:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Living together before marriage is great. It's accepted today in most Western cultures. I would recommend it only if you are engaged and have a wedding date. It's the same in some ways, but gets better after the wedding.
2006-11-08 05:28:48
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answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5
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