My boyfriend of 3 yrs. has been smoking since i've met him. He finally quit 2 months ago and this is the longest he's gone without smoking. I'm so proud of him and he's proud of himself too, but I found a can of chew in our house. I know he's secretly doing this and he doesn't think I know because he knows how I feel about the stuff, it's disgusting! & the real reason i'm concerned is that it rots your teeth & causes alot of mouth problems. What can I do about this? I've never been one to control anything he does, but don't i have a say in this too? Please let me know what you think!
2006-11-08 05:23:07 · 21 answers · asked by LuLu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him you found the chew and explaing to him your concern.
Even go as far as showing pictures of people's mouths with diseases after chewing. It should strike a nerve.
2006-11-08 05:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Somebody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that u definently have a say in it because if u were doing something he didnt like he would tell u and want u to stop to. Maybe get a bunch of stuff online about chewing and how ur teeth could fall out by the age of 45 (my dads did) and how you can get cancer by doing it also. Also by him hiding this from u isnt healthy for the relatinship so bring up the fact that u might leave him for lieing and hiding something from u and u might not be able to trust him again. Ask him how he is doing with his cravings and if he dont confess about the chew then that right there tells u he isnt a very trust worthy bf.
2006-11-08 13:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by ricoville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly, there isn't anything you can do. He's an adult obviously, he's going to make his own choices. And how do you know it's disgusting? Have you tried it?
I tried it for the same reason and it really wasn't all that bad if was the mint kind. I preferred my boyfriend chewing to smoking, his breath smelled a lot better. But truly, if it's the health you are worried about, get some pamphlets, do some research, get all of the facts and statistics and present them to him. Show him that it is truly because you care about his health. Nothing else.
2006-11-08 13:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by 81 Honda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's a disgusting thing but he probably does this because it helps him if he stop smoking. Tell him your gonna refuse to kiss him as long as he's dipping. And go get information about what it can do to your teeth and the cancer it could cause in your mouth. My x use to do this to and it's real disgusting to have to put up with that but old habits are hard to break!
2006-11-08 13:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course you have a say! I wouldn't attack him with the evidence. Pull him aside and let him know that you found the can and let him know your concerns. Also...look up some pictures of people on the Internet who have oral health issues because of chewing tobacco and ask him if he wants to look like that eventually. Visual aids always help! Good Luck.
2006-11-08 13:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try the same technique people use to stop biting their nails: they put this special nail polish on that tastes bad. You could find something (that ofcourse won't harm him..you don't want to poison him!) and add just a little into the can..It could make it taste bad and therefore put him off it for good! Good luck to both, I recently quit smoking and know it can be hard!!!
2006-11-08 13:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Zoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can cause lip, tongue, teeth ( gum ), throat, esophagus cancers plus make his teeth look bad and his breath taste and smell bad too.
by having the chew and the liquid in his mouth he is at a greater problem for getting cancer...
look up a lot of pictures on the web and sent them to him of people who have had their lips tongue pieces remove from the causes of chewing...it is actually gross to look at.but maybe it will do the trick..
good luck
2006-11-08 13:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it really bothers you then tell him that. And if you have to get some pictures of people that dipped for a long time and show him what it does to peoples mouths.
And I for one wouldn't even kiss someone that dips.
2006-11-08 13:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by brit_dean84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him to quit smoking? Then ask him to quit chewing, too. If he quit smoking on his own, maybe he needs something to substitute for the nicotine buzz. Ask him to try the patch or the gum.
2006-11-08 13:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone knows that tabacco and nicotine are very bad drugs. they are addictive. you two should be really, really close together, and are honest, right? well he shouldnt be keeping things, secrets from you. chewing, its gross, and tell him that you dont want to kiss a grossful mouth. counseling can help.. and keep reminding him of the consequences of tabacco chewing.
hope i helped! :)
2006-11-08 13:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋