I have a female friend that i have been close friends with for 3 years, we talk everyday, i became attracted to her and she told me she loves our friendship and does not find me attractive. i had problems getting over her, but i realized it was because my world nearly revolved around her, i also saw that i was not gettin the mutual treatment as a friend as i treated her. So i would still talk to her , but not run to every event she wantted me to be at and of course kept myself busy with things in life that she may not be able to attend with me. Couple a weeks ago she wantted me to come out with her, but i really did not want to, usually i would, just because of her, but i did not this time.... i think she became upset now... She hasn't called me, and i won't call her because i feel i have done nothing wrong. The problem is that she is leaving the country for 4 months on Nov. 23rd... and i do not know if i should just suck it up and call her, or shouldn't she try contctin me too?? help
2006-11-08 05:05:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She hasn't realized yet just what a good friend you have been to her. She was probably honestly blinded by your telling her you find her attractive. She maybe feels uncomfortable now, never really thought of your friendship like that.
I think she should be the one to contact you, but sounds like she will most likely not. Contact her and wish her well on her voyage, while she is gone, she may realize just how good of a friend you really are. Good luck, and don't let stupid stuff stand in the way of good friendship.
2006-11-08 05:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by odessa2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, nooooo! Don't contact her. I think you have handled the whole situation really well! Honestly. She seems to use you when she feels like it and if she's not attracted to you, then why go there?
Don't go sucking up otherwise she's got you where she wants you and knows that you're a pushover. She's trying to make you pay for refusing her. She's probably not used to being refused.
Well done, I say.
2006-11-08 05:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. The best thing is to get her out of your life completely. Your feelings are never going to change, and she's going to be in relationships that are going to break your heart.
2006-11-08 05:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call her if you feel as if she's a good friend because you won't find to many of them around
2006-11-08 05:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋