When people around us, say verbal abuses or make "constructive" criticism, even if we know deep in our heart they aren't truths, sometimes it changes our mood. Specially when it comes from your close family.
What do you do to raise yourself up from all of that?
2006-11-08 05:03:14 · 11 answers · asked by Mary7 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I listen to loud music and dance alone in my room like a manic or i just watch a favorite comedy show or movie.Sometimes they work,sometimes they wont but they only thing for sure is that i tried.
2006-11-08 05:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Morbius 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget "other people" That's has nothing to do with "self-esteem". Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. Don't depend on the way others see you to gauge the way you see yourself. Accomplishments will of course help. Taking care of business. Taking care of yourself first. Then you can little by little attempt to do for others. People are only going to treat as well as you treat yourself. They will respect you only as much as they see you respect yourself. Do you understand? It's good that your concentrating on such an important issue. Self esteem is so important and only you can achieve it. Sometimes I feel like I'm so far behind and like I'll never have everything caught up. So I don't know where to start. Here's what I do...... Trust me on this sweetheart because it works. Say to your self "Everyday I'm going to do SOMETHING. Some days more some days less, but everyday do SOMETHING that your proud of when you go to bed at night. Even if it's a small thing. Clean something, plant something, help a friend, make a list, and cross things off when you finish. I hope this helps you. Good luck!!!
2016-05-21 22:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with someone who can put you back on track... Allow it for a certain amount of time.. Cry and then take a nice Shower and allow it to flow someplace else...Close out the world for awhile no phone no cars no communication and look inside to see if you can pin point the problem...always but always have counselors to assist in the growth of a human being this is all a process that we need to go through it does make you stronger and it does get less complected..
2006-11-08 08:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Len's Support 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is negative forces around you, so you need to reach out and find some positive people/things. Find a hobby that keeps you occupied. Look after yourself, take a long bath and just be you and learn to love yourself by constantly doing everything for 'you'.
If you want good people to hang with, think about joining a church group in your area.. Those people make you feel amazing.
2006-11-08 05:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone close to you, like your best friend to cheer you up. Sometimes listening to music helps me, I usually listen to something upbeat. Anything sad makes me more depressed.
Anyhow, since you know what they say isn't the truth, you have to look past their comments and realize your view of yourself is more important than theirs. Don't let it get to you, and you'll be a stronger and more confident person the next time around. As cliche as it sounds, stay positive.
2006-11-08 05:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by jenahfah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I try to find the root of my sadness. I myself am this type and i have recurrent changes in mood, but i try to talk to myself. If the problem is due to my fault , i never curse myself since it lowers yourself- esteem, so i try to talk myself like talking to a child like saying" ok, be a good girl, this time you get it right". and if i find out others make me feel miserable, i try to think of my flying colours, i try to decieve myself in believing that i'm better, though not the best, and i can beat all....So the bad mood goes away, and i'm myself again!
2006-11-08 05:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell myself all the reasons I am not what they might have said about me. And usually find those negative traits in those that offended me. I exercise, it really helps me feel better. mentally and phsyically
2006-11-08 05:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i cry......i sit down and have a good cry......then i have a chocolate bar and then i get angry at myself for letting someone else hurt me.
i tell myself that i really should feel sorry for them, they are so insecure they have to try and tear down others to feel good!
if i believe myself - i'm fine!
if not - i start all over again! sometimes their 'comments' are two chocolate bar comments! lol
2006-11-08 05:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by tess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cry......you are not alone. I feel the same way right now. But the good thing is that we know we are not like this.
2006-11-08 05:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep believing in your self and don't let things get to you.
if you know your right then that's all that really matters,right
2006-11-08 05:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋