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Question

I have been a relationship with my bf for 5 years. We have a child together. Lately, i've come across numerous porn sites on his email. He is signing up for more and more online porn sites. I am emberassed to confront him about it. However, he is spending money on these sites. Is that normal? I don't know what to say to him. It made me feel uncomfortable to encounter these sites in his e-mail. I was offended. But i don't know what to do.

Answer 1

you can install a software like NetDog Porn Filter on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.NetDogSoft.com

Answer 2

Hi Yessenia - my ex was into porn too, and tried to convince me that it was normal for a guy to look at it every day - he'd spend half an hour before work in the morning looking at pictures and videos on the internet, and again at night. I didn't know what to do either. Unfortunately it became part of the reason our long term marriage ended. And it led to much bigger problems. Some of the sites promoted recreational sex, available locally - women who just wanted someone on the side, couples who were into threesomes, etc. It isn't normal to be into porn in a big way and your boyfriend may not just be looking at pictures. In hindsight, I would handle it all differently. My advice is to speak openly with him about it. Do some research before you talk with him and have the facts to back you up - porn can be a serious addiction and may require advice from a professional. When you're ready, tell him how it makes you feel and that you want him to stop. Offer to help by going with him to counselling or whatever it takes to help him to stop. Get involved together in healthy activities so he doesn't have as much free time for surfing. And consider temporarily stopping your internet service - it is a great convenience but taking a couple of months off to address such a destructive problem won't hurt anyone in your household. Your relationship comes first.

Answer 3

IT IS NOT NORMAL!!!!! Maybe looking at magazines and/or fantasizing is normal, but taking money away from your family to pay for porn is NOT!!!!

You should confront him about it! It will be a difficult discussion, but he is using your money to do this - you have the right!

It is amazing to me that so many people , women especially, believe this is normal behavior for a father. Our society is absolutely unbelievable. Pornography can become a devastating addiction! Families break up, children's lives are destroyed over this crap! Paying for it just the beginning! Next it may be strip clubs and then prostitutes - it all falls in the same category!

You were offended because you should be! He is betraying his commitment to you, and taking money away from his family. Will it be ok when he starts paying for prostitutes? I know, dramatic right? I have seen it happen, and the mentality that it is "no big deal" is what started it!

I wish you luck! I think you should confront him, and demand that it stop! If not, maybe you should take control of the money in the house so he can't use it on things like that anymore!

Answer 4

i think every guy looks at porn sometimes. but it is definetly something that can grow into an addiction. if it makes you uncomfortable, you should say something..dont be embarrassed. HE should be embarassed, and he probably will be. Tell him how it makes you feel, and ask him why he feels the need to look at porn when you are a real live person. If anything he ever does makes you feel bad, you should talk to him, he should listen and change. If he doesnt, the problem has gotten out of control and he needs to see a counselor.

Answer 5

Ask him why he has all these sites, and why he signed up. If he is signed up to more than 3, I would say that he has a porn addiction, but only a doctor can tell him that for sure. Tell him that it hurts you. Is the money taking away from your son in any way...excessive amounts? Don't be embarassed to ask him, you have a right to know. Although, he may get mad you were in his mail. Good luck! :)

Answer 6

You've been with this guy for five years and share a child but you're embarassed to talk to him about porn? You should be open with him and ask why he's suddenly doing this. You don't want to drive him away because, yeah, it is a common thing that guys do. But, let him know it makes you uncomfortable...

Answer 7

maybe he has an addiction to porn. I know it may sound a little weird but there is a illness on this. one of my friends ex boyfriends had it and he could not stay away from porn for moar than 5 mins. ask him whats going on with all the porn.

Answer 8

You must confront him on this issue. Communication is the most important part of a relationship. You should be able to talk to him about anything, even the topics that may be uncomfortable. This issue will continue to get worse, until you confront it.

Answer 9

It is not normal, for he has you. For him to be peering at other women is for him to be "imagining" having sex with that women whomever he is looking at. Porn is like having an affair but in your mind.

I would consult with your husband. And don't take this personally but usually a man whom explores through porn is not getting pleasure at home, maybe you can do something for him inorder to steer him away from the porn. I don't know, maybe doing what he sees on those porn sites.

Answer 10

sounds like he nees some spice in his sex life with you- comfron him about it . These sites are expensive. Anywwhere from %30- $90. He's spending the money he can use for your child on stupid stuff. If i were you i'd cancel the internet you have AOL or whatever and see what he does- he;s obviously disrespecting you. Tell him that this is inappropiate for him to do.