we have taken primary steps abt this...like taking to other males..i mean flirting and so on.........
but the thing is...im not confident enough for the last thing..and is this done in the world? or is it only for movies.......
i can share ideas..my email address is paula_ferd@yahoo.com
contact me on messenger or email......
2006-11-08 04:43:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't mean to judge but I believe that there is something wrong with your marriage and even the way your husband is behaving.
Marriage is only meant to be shared with one man and one woman. You cannot allow another person to come and share in the marriage in every aspect. It defiles the marriage and the two individuals who are in it.
2006-11-10 05:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Alias G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not do it; this only leads to problems. You may get feelings for the other guy or your husband may become jealous.
Think about it if the shoe were on the other foot; would you feel confident and Ok if your husband was having sex with another women? And you definitely have to play in the safety factor, you have no idea what kind of STDs these other people may be carrying.
I have heard of stories of couples swinging, and it usually only leads to problems.
2006-11-08 12:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, first of all I, volunteer so that he would get so jealous at the fact, that someone that is 250 lbs of twisted steel and solid sex appeal was banging the hell out of you. and you for the first time since you were a teenager was really enjoying it. He would never disrespect you in that regard anymore, for a man to want to watch the woman that the lord gave to him as a gift, take it up the wazoo is (appealing if your single) but married , No! Your relationship is over so deal with it. Its not a fantasy ITS A F^#*ING
REALITY he doesnt want to watch you! he secretly want another, your done.So dont beg be a lady and tell him to f$%k off!
There are guys out there in the world that would want nothing but you for you! However if it is your fantasy also then send me a pic and justice might be served!
bucsfan1la@yahoo.com
2006-11-08 12:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crossing fantasy into reality sometimes is bad and sometimes is good.
Number one rule is "You have the right to say NO".
Even if its in the middle of the act.
Only do what you feel comfortable with. If right now its only flirting then flirt. If and when you get to the next level it should feel natural, awkward but natural like sex for the first time.
2006-11-08 13:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a great fantasy. However, trying not to get attached to that other person might be difficult.
The other factor is, your husband might become jealous and might end the marriage.
So enter at your own risk.
2006-11-08 12:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by offspringkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is done in the real world... Know a few people who have done it... One guy had a couple of very well endowed black guys enjoy his wife for a weekend, and he said that was the best fantasy he'd had come true... She was willing to do it again too... :D
Are you willing to fulfil the fantasy???
2006-11-08 12:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look at "rehankhansaab " post...They're post is a good example of what it could turn to and your marriage will be destroyed. Do not let another person come in and defile your marriage. If it happens your marriage will not last.....
2006-11-08 14:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, well, 20 years ago, my husband wanted this. Altho I felt strongly about this(not doing it) he insisted that it would help our marriage. Well I've been divorced 15 years now. You choose.
2006-11-08 12:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by breaker 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I can understand the fantasy. The main concern would be safety. Oh and for me would be to know for sure that your man wasn't bi or gay!!!
2006-11-08 12:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by dano 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do this...it will only harm your marriage. Would you want to see him with another woman? If you want to live in this "fantasy" rent a porn...
2006-11-08 12:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋