Derek my mate, recently got a new laptop. Since then he never answers the phone or his front door nor does he call me.
On the odd occasion that he does answer he says "Mark, really busy call ya later" but never does!!
I'm getting fed up with the way he treats me.
First he gets married(I can wait), then there's the kids(cool I like kids too), then there's the job, the operation, fishing tournaments, etc, etc...I could go on and on and on.
I have to wonder sometimes if he loves me at all?
He told me as soon as he has the money he'll leave her and we'll marry in Amsterdam cos it's not legal in Ireland.
I cant wait, I dont want to wait, why should I wait?
I've already given him 20% of my inheritance.
He needs a sharp shock!
2006-11-08 04:37:03 · 41 answers · asked by mememe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh for sure. You should give him an ultimatum - it's me or the laptop! Tell his wife! Doesn't she realise that all those fishing competitions had to be leading somewhere? Follow your passion and your heart! Declare your love!
By the way, for everyone else on here, my answer is ironic because most people seem to be missing the fact that the question appears to be written by a man about a man - joking that he is gay - but not written by an obviously gay man ("my mate")...it's obviously a wind up - it's such a shame no one else on here can see that! Mind you, it is very entertaining - (Gay marriage is not legal in Ireland..) well done and best of luck to all of you!
2006-11-08 04:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Behavin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want him out of your life - then go ahead and tell his wife.
I am a little confused about the names Mark & Derek, though? You are Mark and he is Derek? And he is married?
OK, no matter. The moral is the same, just a different twist, I guess.
If you tell his wife, Derek will dump you and never want anything to do with you. He really is stringing you along, waiting for you to give up.
Hard as it may be - you should try to get your money back (Be sneaky and ask for a loan or something) and then split.
Do not waste another minute of your life on him.
But get your money back BEFORE you dump him. OK?
Good luck and you will get over him.
2006-11-08 05:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by superman in disguise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey he is not going any were and it's your fault first of all he is a married man. first mistake was to give him money sh!t i would take your inheritance to if your giving it up. you should know that a man will never ever leave his wife for another women unless he truly loves and must have the other women(rare but it does happen) but from what you said he is not going anywhere and money is never ever the reason why he is waiting to leave. good for you. look for your own man and leave this women's man alone. just curious did you buy the new computer? if so I'm sure that's all he wants from you other then sex and I'm sure he is finish with you because you gave him what he wanted money and as long as you hold on and keep giving him he is gonna take and he is gonna lead you on, get a back bone and get your own man and stop telling men you have an inheritance
2006-11-08 04:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think he is going to leave his wife and family for you or anyone else??? He has no intention of leaving her. Why do you need to tell the wife?? Just to hurt her and the kids...she isn't the one that is doing the cheating is she, you and he are the creeps in this situation, don't hurt the family!!! And if she hasn't figured it out yet maybe she likes living in a world walking around blind to her husbands cheating, that is her decision not yours to throw it in her face..smiles. And if he does leave her or she dumps him because you told her, what makes you think he will end up with you and if he does what makes you think he will not cheat on you...time to dump him and find a single guy(no more married ones)!!!! And don't throw money at anyone but you..smiles.
2006-11-08 04:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm - I'll put it to u this way....a little harsh but realistic....why should he leave....he's got you hanging by a string and you've stuck around....so he can have it both ways...a married life with kids AND a bf on the side. If neither are going to leave....why change it?
Wishing for a "sharp shock" and writing for advice on this isn't going to solve your prob...i'm sure deep inside you know what you should do - but just want validation for it.
Here it is....
leave, he's not worth it and you're good to him I'm assuming - give yourself more credit...you're worth more than the way that you're getting treated. you're going to keep hoping that he'll leave and he'll come to his senses - but why should he, you're sticking around whether he does or not...
on a nice note to you - hope that all turns out for the best FOR YOU...put yourself higher than this...
2006-11-08 10:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'm really sorry but he's USING YOU!!! If he truly cared for your feelings he wouldn't have put you in this "waiting" situation not to mention taken ANY of your money. Derek is a user and a liar. Stop hitting your self in the head and wondering why you have a headache. Don't tell his wife you love him, instead, tell her what's been going on and see how fast he runs you out of his life and makes it all your fault...
2006-11-08 04:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used. Telling his wife isn't going to make him love you. This guy sounds like a real scum bag. The fact that he married someone else and has kids should tell you something. If he is still seeing you through all of this, what makes you think that he'll be faithful to you anyway?!?! He doesn't love you. Have enough self respect to walk away....Cut your losses!
2006-11-08 04:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fall in Love with Jesus Christ. If you seek Christ he will never betray you nor hurt you...and you could always know that He loves you....
This guy that you're waiting for is Married.You're wasting your time. There will be no need to tell his wife b/c the truth will come out sooner or later about the both of you.
2006-11-08 05:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think for 1 minute he will leave his wife and kids, you obviously mean nothing to him, and ok if you tell his wife you will hurt him, but you will hurt his wife and more importantly his kids more, and why should they have to suffer they are the inocents in all this, and why can't you find a single guy of your own, why do you have to break a family up, you deserve more than that have some self respect walk away from the loser, and get on with your life.
2006-11-08 04:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his wife cos she don't deserve a husband like him...
And that guy is obviously cheating you of everything you can offer to him. Stop believing in his sweet talks and move on with your life. he's a liar and a hypocrite. He can cheat on his wife and he'll jolly well cheat on you too. Get back to him but telling his wife. I pitied his wife and the kids...
2006-11-08 04:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Schizophrenic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋