Do mixed-race/ cross-cultural relationships work?

Question

What are the highs and lows?

Answer 1

well I've taught my husband how to charm a snake, and he's taught me how to play the steel pans. the lows are I can't put my dreadlocks in my turban.

Answer 2

Yes, they do!

Why? Because they require more effort than relationships with those from our own ethnic group. You see, we people do not value what we have, so we generally take our "own" for granted, such as our parents, our children, our friends, our siblings. We have become so accustomed to them, that we do not really 'see ' them as they need to be seen, in order to appreciate their worth.

I have found in a cross-cultural relationship, one party learns to understand how the other thinks based on that person's upbringing, the differences in their backgrounds, the very basic qualities that we find so unlike what we have known all of our growing years - there is where love blossoms. Where we might have heard negative remarks at school or by some crude character, on assuming a relationship with someone who is 'different ', we find them to be no different from ourselves just a different color or from a different country. On the inside, we feel the same and actually do look the same. We love and laugh the same. We hurt and cry the same.

Any relationship requires work for it to work. It is not going to grow and blossom beautifully in a vacuum. We people seem to think so. That's impossible.! Relationships that work experience problems as all others, but what makes all the difference is that the parties involved work hard at making them successful.

When you make a commitment to someone you owe that someone and the relationship therefrom, all of your attention and devotion. It is not 50%-50% but 100%-100%. Anything less is making room failure. And, if there is any thought of "Oh well, if it doesn't work then we can get break up or get a divorce (if there is a marriage)!", then, please, do the other person a favor and leave them alone.

Answer 3

Oh they do, but you have to me even better at communicating and be more tolerant than normal. I don't have a mixed race relationship. My Hus bond is English and I am Danish/Greenlandic, so I really didn't expect any complications. But there has been a couple of misunderstandings, as English people can be easily defended and think you are rude if you don't say please and thank you.
For what it's worth I have always thought that being in a mixed relationship opens your horizon. You learn more from the other person and their families. The families support is a must. If you do not have that, it can be very difficult. But if you get though that you have a superb relationship. Good luck

Answer 4

It depends on the maturity and open mindedness of the individuals involved. I am in a mixed race relationship and have been for 4 1/2 years. I am very offended by the first persons answer. We are not and never have been on aide. Our house hold makes a good living and our children do not go with out. We both work very hard and work opposite shifts as to avoid our children being left in the care of strangers. I think the only thing that matters in any relationship is what you are willing to put into it. It has nothing to do with race. I do believe that you have to be open minded on both parts to except cultural differences.

Answer 5

Yes of course they work, the lows are if you do not show tolerance or respect for each other. The highs are a fascinating relationship that will never be boring. Finding out about each others cultures is fun. Cooking and trying each others cuisine, very interesting. These relationships can and do work , i talk from experience, happily together for 22 years.

Answer 6

Its hard work but its also more rewarding.I've noticed we communicate with each other more then our friends who are in same race relationships, I think its due to the fact our cultures are different we dont take thing as given.

Myself and my husband come from different cultures but our cultures have more similarities then differences.

Answer 7

corse they do, but u have to ignore the intolerence from people, usually black girls, white men and old people. small minded.
Im in a mixed relationship and its going well, we have a beautiful son ( most mixed race kids are soooo much cuter than other race babys) and do not use aide. y would being in a mixed relationship make you go on that? its mostley the white couples who are on benifits and live on council estates.

Answer 8

In my opinion white men don't like to see white women with blacks but the black men seem to love the idea. The same as black women don't like white women stealing their men. This is probably just a stereotype but it is true that you don't see that many white men dating black women and vica versa. Personally I think there isn't anything wrong with it as long as you are aware that if you share this opinion you will need to consider the opinion of the people who disagree. For example if i wanted to go out with a girl it wouldn't bother me what race she was if i liked her, however i may not get along with her friends,family etc, the true problem lies within other peoples prejudices and how willing they are to accept good people.

Answer 9

I think they do. I'm already multi-racial, and my boyfriend is bi-racial. Sadly none of our parents nor grandparents are still together, but we know our differences and put them on a positive note. We make a balance, or we at least try. The thing is for me, is that when it comes to these kind of relationships, it let's you know that feelings and/or love doesn't care what race your lover is, and that's the best.

Answer 10

Yes and No; unforchanly there is still discrimination in the world may-by in time. this don't bother me and never will my stepson has had two African American wife's that is what he likes unforchanly the ones that get hurt in the long run are the children and they never done anything to anyone to be discriminated by both sides

Answer 11

I met a Black girl in a club in Sheffield, we went out a few days later so met her family when i went to pick her up.

She had 3 huge brothers who told if i ever went near her sister again they would break every bone in my body.

This wasn't just a little threat, they had my pinned up against the wall with ones guys hands around my throat, i could hardly breathe.

I could have stuck it out but i'd just met her and i couldn't be bothered with the hassle from day one.