convincing my parents to......?

Question

Let me get my cartilage pierced, my dad is like "eh..whatever talk to your mom, if is ok with her its ok with me" but my mom is the one that needs more convincing
tomorrow my little sister is getting her second ear piercing( the double one, right above her first) and i dont even have that.
but my sis said to ask my mom about my cartilage...does anyone have any ideas on how i can get her to say yes
if it helps at all im almost 16
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And to dye my hair black, she thinks its to dark. but i look better with darker hair..............i've dyed my hair many times, alot of the time , darker. but i want it black
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also how can i convince them to let me get either a lip ring or an eyebrow piercing

Answer 1

Show her how much you want it by researching on the care you'll be doing to make sure it heals properly and show her how responsible you will be in taking care of it. Cartilage piercings are not the same as ear lobe piercings. They take time and effort to heal. You will not be able to sleep on that side, you should never talk on the phone using that side, and you should NEVER touch it unless you have just washed your hands very very well as cartilage can get infected very easily. Pretty much dont ever let anything touch it until its healed. You will have to wash it with antibacterial soap twice daily (preferably the soap/Provon they sell) and you may need to soak it in sea salt water 2-3 times daily depending on how well it heals. There is a chance it could get infected if its not taken care of or that scar tissue or keltoids can form (if taken care of and pierced by a professional that should not happen). A cartilage piercing can take 2-6 months to fully heal and will hurt for quite a while when they get bumped. Are you prepared to take care of it? Show your mom what you've learned and that you are serious about it. It's a piercing and it is not perminant. If you decide you do not want it you can always take it out and it will heal.

About your hair, if you've dyed it a lot why does she have a prob with it being black now? If you go buy the stuff and do it urself what can she do about it? Black hair is often associated with goth or a depressed person and maybe she's thinking you're trying to associate with that? Just let her know you are responsible and it doesn't mean anything. You can always dye it another color if you dont like it.

Now about a lip or eyebrow piercing...um after you do the first two things I would wait on this. Getting an eyebrow or lip piercing is different than a simple cartilage piercing. Getting one of those can affect your job opportunities and if you get one they may force you to take them out. Also eyebrow piercing have a tendency of being rejected and can leave a nice scar when they do. I would suggest waiting till you're a little older before getting these. It will be much harder to convince your parents on this, especially after getting the first two.

Answer 2

Really think about these things before you go doing them

Yeah, they may seem great now, but are they really so important to get in an argument with your mother?

Just ask her. Arguing about it will just show her you're still immature and not ready, and less likely to let you do these things.

If you can show you're responsible enough, she might let you do it.

But if she still says no, wait till you move out. You'll probably be over it by that time.

Just remember you'll be changing the things you like and dont like over the next 10 years or so, so dont lock yourself in.

I dont like the same things I did when I was 16, and i'm sure I wont like the things I like now 5 years from now..

Answer 3

Dont get your cartilage pierced... I had mine donr 3 times and each time a little bump grew and it hurt like hell... So I took it off and the bump wouldnt go off it took about a whole year if it to come off... And about you dying your hair black... Go for it, do it befor your mom get home hahaha once you have it done she cant do anything about it... and probably wont even notice... Just tell her that it had the wrong color in the box... jijij **wink**

Answer 4

just tell her that you feel you are responsible enough to have a piercing now and that you never really ask for much and that this is a big deal to you and to let you experiment. Also tell her that you respect her opinion, but that oyu have thought about this for awhile and that you wanted her blessing instead of doing it behind her back and then trying to cover it up.

Answer 5

You're a good girl consulting to your parents first, and it's the right and the true meaning of attitude!
How to convince them? Show them that you're independent enough to decide what you like to do for yourself, you need their approval but let them know that you're matured enough to know what makes you better. Explaining them well WHY you like to do those piercings, and those reasons should be valid + reasonable. I think your parents are cool enough to approve but once they don't--remember that they know best.
good luck!

Answer 6

good theres no longer a lot u can do...probably you would simply say some thing like i rather wish a auto I'm going to be sixteen then flip it right into a giant arguement then depart your mom and dad feeling responsible so... probably then you definately Will have a greater risk. well good fortune

Answer 7

i think what i would be doing if i were u