2006-11-08 04:14:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you JUST got a divorce, then you are probably not actually ready for marriage...take some time to re-learn who you are (as an individual, not part of a couple)...
...even for someone who has been living apart from their (now ex) spouse for a while, or for whom the marriage was over (emotionally) months or years ago, needs some actual time after the divorce becomes legal to get grounded and think about what the future may hold for them...
Jumping into another marriage right away seems like someone who's just afraid of being alone, and therefore probably won't make a good partner and chances are hasn't made the best choice of partner for themselves...
Personal growth and learning occur best when we're flying solo...I highly recommend anyone that's ending or just ended a relationship to take some time just for themselves and re-learn who they are...and where they want to go...
2006-11-08 04:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Kingsexwife,
If you are going to live according to the Lord's way, you would not be considering another marriage. The Bible tells us, "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." (Mark 10:9). If you are a child of God you would not be considering a divorce. If you're husband is determined to divorce you and you are saved, then you would realize that you cannot remarry. That is if you are going to do things God's way. This may seem difficult but the Lord will strengthen you. We are so close to the end (2011?) at this present time.
I would strongly suggest that you pray to the Lord and ask Him for wisdom and strength. Pray also that you and your spouse may be reconciled.
2006-11-08 12:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question should answer itself! If you just got divorced then you should know you are not ready for another marriage. Geez, give yourself some time! Most people go through a transitional person or two anyway.
2006-11-08 12:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u just got divorce,wait.Dont rush into marriage immediately.You should be able to choose freely ur remarriage,and not as an obligation/compulsion for the sake of being in a family/a relationship.
2006-11-08 12:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a question... First, who am I to know this answer, nobody.. just my opinion.. It's like the adage: You know you've met the right one when you just can't stand to be away from them. You want them around constantly. However, in marriage it goes further. You have found the one you want to be with and can't stand to be away from them. Your though process has to go on and think does it hurt so bad to be away from them that I want to be married to them and wake up seeing their face next to mine. Take a little time to know them and find out their habits and if you can live with them as a person and want everyone else to know you love them, then best of luck to you! Sorry, to hear about your divorce, my opinion you can say should have worked the first time around, but people (unfortunately) do change.
2006-11-08 12:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by dadknows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different but I read (don't quote me on this) somewhere that people who re-marry within 2 years end up divorced a second time.
After reading that I told myself I would wait at least 3 yrs. Also, don't jump on the first bus you see. By habit (being married), we are used to being with someone and not being alone. Try to reverse that and get used to being alone and not needing someone.
Good Luck!
2006-11-08 12:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you're not ready. When you are, you just know.
Before you remarry, consider all the reasons why your first marriage ended. Give yourself time to think clearly, don't rush into the first available relationship looking for comfort and security. If you do, you're bound to make the same mistakes again.
No need to rush.
2006-11-08 12:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just got a divorce, you should be giving yourself about a year to get yourself back together. If you have kids, you can't be selfish; you need to put them first. Then, start dating slowly.
2006-11-08 14:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have and question in your mind then you are not ready.
2006-11-08 13:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by bifgrl31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "know"... You just guess by following your intuition.
2006-11-08 12:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋