so yesterday my first bf (of 2 years) broke up with me. he said he doesnt love ma anymore (and NO he didnt leave for another woman) 6 months ago i stupidly lied to his face abotu a picture that was ont he desktop of my comp. he joked around and said "oh is that for your myspace: and i blurted out NO without thinking when it was. SO he said he cant trust em caue of that. he had a good point, if i lied abotu soemthign stupid liek that then what else could i be lying about. it was an accident when i blurted out no but told him the truth a few hours later cause i was afraid how he would react. i talked to him a few minutes ago and he said he would liek to trust me. but he doesnt believe me when i kept telling him i have never done anythign else.
we got into a fight a few monthsago and accepted the fact that i damaged his trust and was going to do anythign i could to try to earn it back. i told him everything. i told himt his earlier and he still doesnt believe me he said....
2006-11-08 04:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how do i know your not lying to me.
how do i get him to trust me. ive been tellign him things that i would do antyhgin to show him how sorry i am, and how i would never forgive myself and how sorry i am for ruining our once amazing realtionship.
we still want to remain as firneds but how do i ear his trust back? ive tried everything. he gave me a chance to do it but cant take it anymore. he gave up on me.....
how can i convince him that i havent lied to him except for way back when.... he doesnt want to believe me... how do i get his trust back?
2006-11-08 04:02:17 · update #1
he told me a while ago he trusted me a little bit and said he wants to trust me again.....
2006-11-08 04:04:21 · update #2
but i dont knwo what to do. i dont knwo who or when he's goign to get over it and give me another try. ive always been faithfult o him and everythign. he said he would break upw ith me if i ever lied to him again so i always told him everythign cause i never wanted that now he telles me he doesnt love me or trust me anymore..... ='(
2006-11-08 04:05:41 · update #3
ilove him so much he means everythign to me and it just hurts so much that he told me he doesnt love me anymore....
2006-11-08 04:06:33 · update #4
how can i convince him to believe me, i havent ever doen anythign worng since ive lied but he doesnt want to believe me.....
go can i get his trust back. i know we need to be frieds then maybe he'll trust me then we can give our relationship another try
2006-11-08 04:08:12 · update #5
he has never accused me of anything. but he doesnt believe me now that we're both single. i think he thinks i always lied to him when it was just that one time. im told him in not a bad person and i would never want to do anythign to hurt him or to hurt us.
2006-11-08 04:16:59 · update #6
i asked him if our relationship was my fault and he said no that it wastn but io know it is.if i never lied this wouldnt be happening right now...
2006-11-08 04:21:16 · update #7
trust is hard to get back but if you just give him time clam down and chill out he will come around if he really love you ....
2006-11-08 04:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by besos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! when trust is broken, thats a hard thing to fix. But it is do-able! Just stick it out sweetie. I know its hard. When my first b/f broke up with me, I was devastated. But that was 4 years ago and I have completely moved on. Believe me, time heals everything! My prayers are with you!
2006-11-08 04:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your relationship wasn't on very solid footing to begin with, and he may have been looking for a way out. Good relationships are built on trust. Put this one aside and learn from it.
2006-11-08 04:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on and leave him dry. He's concerned more with his "feelings" than you as a couple. His concern over lying is unfounded. You were not sure of how he would take it so you said "No". Now you know how he would take things. You do not need him - try someone else who appreciates you for you! :)
2006-11-08 04:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by SeanB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my own experance i will tell you that when he tells your his trust is gone just out of the blue most likely he is doing something wrong and not actually trusting himself. was he ever accusing you of anything way out there that you knew that you were not doing? if so take my advice into consideration!!!
2006-11-08 04:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he is just using the picture issue to get away and make it your fault.Im sorry you are sad and wish you the best.
Charlie
2006-11-08 04:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋