Mind you, they haven't seen each other face to face in 14 years but he still keeps in touch with her (she's married too) by writing emails and exchanging pictures w/ each other. Why does he hide this from me and is it possible the flame still hasn't completely gone out after all these years?
2006-11-08 03:57:22 · 24 answers · asked by stefania 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like he never got closure in the relationship. That doesnt mean he still wants her. Sounds like a fantacy to me. Mabye he was the one dumped and he remembers the relationship as being very good. Was it his first real love? Not that big of a deal!!! My husband was only with one other girl befor me and she dumped him for her currant husband. It crushed him at the time but then we started dating after a summer of him being alone. We have been married 7 years and have 3 kids. Love him till death!!!!!
We hang out with our ex.s all the time to this day. I trust him and I really like his ex and her husband and he likes mine. I still have strong feelings for my ex. boyfriends they are good friends and why shouldnt I!!! They helped me to become the person I am today and my husband respects that as well. As a matter of fact he is best friends with my ex. b-4 him. He was the best man in our wedding. Some people think it is weird we are both still friends with our ex.s but I just tell them we didnt date them because they were sucky people on the contrary they are all really cool and mature. If you are friends with your ex.s it is just obvious not to bring up any of the private info. We never do!!!
2006-11-08 04:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First loves never die. He may be hiding the communication from you out of respect and love for you. Keeping in touch and exchanging photos is not detremental to your marriage. As long as this is all they do, I wouldn't worry too much. I have kept in touch with (and exchange photos with) my first love also. We were 12 yrs old when we met and dated until we were 17. Graduation, college, etc. - we drifted apart. We are 59 years old and both in our second marriages to others and our spouses are not in any way threatened by our contact. Remember, he's married to you - and comes home to you - and it's a fun thing to stay in touch without sexual overtones.
2006-11-08 04:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be just plain friendship. Might not mean he is still holding the flame, just something of the past he is afraid of letting go-it reminds him of younger (whatever memories) of back then. However, if he is hiding these communications, he needs to fess up and let you see what they are saying to egether. It is just a mutual respect and common courtesy towards you. I was emailing a female friend for a while from my teen years, but I let my wife read both sides of the letters and we eventually stopped communicating anyway (the friend and I) lol.. Not my wife.. Best of luck to you!
2006-11-08 04:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by dadknows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to my wife for 17 years. I have kept in contact with my highschool sweetheart, Elizabeth J. Letourneau, all these years.
If he is getting pictures, emails etc. He is still burning for her. In my case I keep hoping that I could get back with her and if she ever said yes I would be running out the door and never think twice about my wife.
I suspect it may be the same with your husband. He may be happy even content with you but he has a burning in his soul for this other lady.
Sorry and good luck.
2006-11-08 04:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if this bothers you and you want them to stop talking then he should have enough respect to end it..no questions.
He loves you not her..
I found out my fiance was talking to an old girlfriend...same situation as you..they were exchanging pics and talking when I wasnt around and then he would erase his cell phone log. But I knew and I confronted him with it..
I told him how this made me feel...she lives in a different state as us but I still felt like it was an "emotional affair"
If I were to ever catch him doing anything like this behind my back again he would have hell to pay. Tell him how it makes you feel and that you would feel so much better if he would quit hiding things from you because you would never do this to him
2006-11-08 04:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its he is proud of what he has and wants to let her know. It could be away of him saying that he wants to be friends and thats all cuz look at my beautiful family. If he wanted more from her why show pictures of you and be open like that. But why hide this from you..fear of what you might think. Ask him..let him know you know about this and you dont appreciate the secrets. I did have an Ex that contacted me and sent me pics of his kids...I can be pleasant but I dont really care...LOL so I didnt really respond but I wont ignore but I also told my husband as well. I know my Ex was interested in more then just being friends and once I let him know he had no chance against my husband he disappeared. Muhahahaaa Talk to your husband about this...my husband is very social and I know this about him but thats why I love him and trust him.
2006-11-08 04:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the content of the emails. If they are simply friendly, then there's nothing to worry about. He may be hiding it for fear that you may think there is intent to commit a foul, even though their communication may be completely harmless.
Believe it or not, men and women can be friends without sex. Many will tell you that it's not true, but it really is.
2006-11-08 04:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one to judge, yet, this isn't healthy. Usually, this type of behavior, is a regret of not pursuing his "Sweetheart." The e-mails, picture exchanges and correspondence between the two. Are just stepping stones to the next level. And you know what that is.
2006-11-08 04:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you hit the nail on the head. If he is hiding it from you, deep down he knows it is wrong. Innocent friendships are completely fine with old flames....but you should not be kept in the dark. People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.
2006-11-08 04:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Emily B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be. Remember you never really get over your first love and I use the word 'never' loosely. Not too say that he's doesn't love you or anything but sometimes it's a breath of fresh air to talk to someone who knows you on another level who isn't the person your with. But as for him, I don't know for sure.
2006-11-08 04:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋