do you think that a woman will stop cheating?

Question

I have found out that my wife has had an affair recently. To my supprise after trying to work on the marrigae she has told me that this is the second time. Will a woman be faithful or is it certain for her to cheat again. I would like to hear from men that has been in a similiar situation

Answer 1

I believe that once someone cheats on another, it's too easy to do it again, and again.

That isn't too say that a cheater can't change. If a cheater finds a new person, the right person, then they won't need to cheat anymore.

But, if she cheatedon you, more than once....she probably isnt' going to stop.

Answer 2

I know that feeling believe me, you talk about a wake up call. Don't know how you treated her but cheating is a weakness in character and a I don't give a fuc* about anyone but myself attitude. Listen, this is a difficult situation people usually cheat when they feel that there partner is not showing them affection or something is lost. Now she made the mistake by thinking she could have both worlds you taking care of her and the attention of another man. We as humans love attention from other people, no matter how long we are with someone and how much we love someone, it's nice to know other people find you attractive but to take it this far then obviously there is a problem. Ask yourself what went wrong with this marriage. many married women look for better sex with other men. if you say that you have treated her badly this could be the cause of her seeking for a other. If a men is good to his wife in every way then she has no reason to look elsewhere. She seems as if she's done it so often and so easily. If you want to be with her, then at least go to some counseling. Especially if you have kids. If after counseling and you cannot move forward, then maybe time apart first will help. And if that goes nowhere, then maybe you should just go separate ways. If you have kids, then you will always be connected in that way. Try to keep it respectable and civil, if there are kids involved

Answer 3

The most common answer to why spouses cheat is that something is wrong in the marriage and the affair is a bi-product of those problems, even when most other aspects of the relationship are working well. “The problem” is often one that the faithful spouse who would never think of cheating does not see or has elected to ignore for one reason or another. Other times, the marriage has changed and evolved in a way that leaves the cheating husband or cheating wife feeling left out or somehow empty. Those changes may include a shift in attitudes toward one another and the problems ensue. When a spouse feels that his or her needs are not being met, some turn to their work, others to drugs or alcohol and many to the arms of another man or woman. Although this appears to be the most common cause, there are others who engage in an affair or infidelity purely for the sex. They do not want their relationship to end, they simply seek the thrill that being with someone else brings. Either way, the pain, humiliation and betrayal are the same.
You have right to get answer from her why she cheated and you must work together to change underlying problem which led to cheating otherwise she will cheat again.

Answer 4

Hello Ace, Sweetheart the worst pain that anyone has to endure is the pain of the heart. I am sorry this has happened to you. And this also goes both ways. Men have affairs as well. This is serious,,,,,,, and i am sorry but usually once a cheater then always a cheater (speaking from personal experience with Ex-husband). The main thing is that she was honest by telling you about the affair. Ask her why she did have the affair when she is married to you? ,,,ask her if she has forgotten what the marriage vows which were taken at the alter meant? ,,,and ask her (depending on how you feel) if she wants to try marriage counseling or if you (personally with out her) want to go see a lawyer about a divorce. Some states will favor you over her (if you have proof of her dis-respect and lack of loyalty ---like a tape recorded message of her saying she was unloyal and unfaithful or tape record the questions above) it is called "neglect of marriage". This is a very sensitive subject. What ever you choose to do,,,,,,,Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 5

The affairs happened for a reason. Communicate and face up to the reasons....both of you and then perhaps a councellor to help.
If you both want the marriage to work then it can but it needs positive input and effort from both sides. It is all too easy to apportion blame in these situations. What she did was wrong...very wrong and twice....well not good. Does not mean to say it is going to keep repeating if you get to the root cause and adress this together. Or alternatively be totally honest once through a communication and effort time....if it is not a solution then part company and avoid even more hurt.

Answer 6

The heart of the matter is everyone who cheats, cheats for reason. Until whatever that reason is gets addressed, that person will be prone to continue to cheat.

People seem to think that people "make a mistake" and cheat. Some cheaters even in their hearts feel this way. The truth is that there is something lacking in the person's life and it need to be fulfilled. If its not fulfilled by a person's partner it will be fulfilled by something or someone else.

Answer 7

My wife was caught cheating and we talked and I forgave her. She was caught cheating again and we talked and I forgave her.
She was caught cheating again.

She finally admitted that I was not doing things in the bedroom like she wanted/needed and therefore she would continue affairs.

I have always been gentle and caring in the bedroom and basicaly she told me she wanted somone to just F the heck out of her with no concern for her feelings, and she liked it rough and doing some sex acts I had no interest in. I offered to try to change somewhat in the bedroom to accomidate her. She said it would not work because she knows that I am not "made that way".


It may be something like this with you and your wife. If so she will just keep cheating.... sorry

Answer 8

While people can technically change their behavior, a pattern of cheating is a bad omen. Every time someone cheats on their partner, it theoretically becomes easier to cheat on them again. They rationalize it; they make excuses.

I would suggest that you guys get some counseling. Moving on from something like that is a balancing act of forgiveness and sticking up for yourself; trying to save your marriage is admirable, but just make sure she doesn't make a cuckold out of you. Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is walk away from someone if they won't change their behavior.

Answer 9

Once a cheater always a cheater!

Some cheaters dont know how to stop, cant stop...

But there are some that do it a few times get busted and stop.

But this is all on you dude. Hope everything turns out for the best.

Goodluck!

Answer 10

My level of trust would be very low after two affairs. Does she seem truly remorseful? Is she working hard to repair the marriage, or is she placing the blame on you? It is possible for your wife to change, but I would not expect it unless you see a true desire on her part.