Obviously applies to just LGBT. Are you out to family, friends, at work?
Are gays better off when more are completely out, or does it matter?
2006-11-08 03:28:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Completely out to all that are a part of my life. I don't wear a name tag with "I am Gay" on it but when asked, i am honest about it. It helps that i am self employed, so i don't have to worry in that regard.
I think it helps over all if more people are not in the closet, living openly, if nothing else to be role models to younger gays and lesbians that we are part of society and we are more than just what the media portrays us as.
I do think its important to respect others privacy if they arent out. Not everyone enjoys the freedoms that those that are out can.
2006-11-08 05:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A few people know, but I haven't told everyone. I guess it will be apparent once I have a boyfriend again, unless he doesn't want to be out.
Most gay guys that I have run into, who want to have a relationship, seem to want you and he both to be out. If you don't come out, they complain that they feel that you are ashamed of them.
I wouldn't advertise it, but there is no problem with you telling friends about it. I always wait until they talk about gay people. If they say nice things about them, I usually tell them (except at work - Don't come out at work unless you work at a Gay Bar or a Coffee shop). At some point you will become 90% OUT because you will be living with your partner and doing things with him or her. People will be able to notice when you have been together with someone for a long time by the way you naturally behave around that person.
Don't worry about it, do what you think seems right ... it will all work OUT. (no pun intended - lol)
2006-11-08 03:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im out to family & friends. Not out at work but thats soon to come. My job is actually quite gay friendly and many employees are out and have moved up the ladder quite well. So im afraid to be discriminated against. I just have to get myself in the mindset to tell all. Because right now im in this whole its my personal life/my business type phase. But i do think once i get more comfortable i'll enjoy being 100% out.
2006-11-08 04:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am out to a few of my family members and most of my friends, and I am completely out at work.
My life is a hell of a lot more complicated now that a few know because some of my family are uncomfortable around me. It woudl be better if I could just come out to all those around me. My children do not know because my wife insists that I not tell them.
2006-11-08 03:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm completely out and very active in my community. (at the schools, animal advocacy etc) But being out is still a day to day thing when you are out you are still having to come out it seems from time to time.
We recently had a huge wedding and it left the city in a stir, everyone phone to congratulate us.. even the gas meter reader!
I can't speak for anyone else but I know I feel better off in being myself and honest, I know it's best for our children that we are OK with who we are and not hiding like there is anything wrong with us or something silly like that. But I also believe everyone is on there own individual journey.
I have seen internalized homophobia destroy people, and entire families. It's extremely hard to watch.
2006-11-08 04:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely.
2006-11-08 03:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am only out to my friends, because my family is full of god fearing people and they all think homosexuals are going to hell. Most of the people I work with dont need to know what I am so I dont tell them.
2006-11-08 03:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by zorroinmybed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im very much out, and everyone i know is just fine with me being a lesbian especially my partner hahaha...
i dont think it really matters if you are completely out or hiding in your closet, you know who you are and thats all that matters..i also dont really think you need to announce it to the world, but coming out to family and friends is fine, coming out at work is not always a great thing to do, do they really need to know, some of us gays like to keep some parts of our lives private...there are too many homophobes out there..it just makes things hard and uncomfortable..
2006-11-08 03:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by geminilovingacancer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally out to family and friends. I'm out to some people at work. I have no problem telling people that ask.
2006-11-08 03:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Out totally to all that matter, as in friends and family. As far as anywhere else, I don't advertise it. The checkout girl at the supermarket could care less if I play with guys........
2006-11-08 03:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by buldawg 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋