My BF leaves the room to talk whenever his cell phone rings.?

Question

But sometimes if it's his parents or sister he sits and talks in front of me. I have confronted him about it and he says he is just used to doing that and he's done it since before he met me. I try to argue he only does it at certain times, but he gets mad and defensive. What should I do?? Please give me some advise.

Answer 1

He's a boy, but probably not a genuine friend. It sounds as if he is hiding something under the guise of selective privacy. You are right to be suspicious. If I where you, I wouldn't snoop. Rather, I'd just dial the relationship back to a less serious level. Take control and put him in a position, where he can't take your relationship for granted. If you are living together, I'd move out, regain your full independence and just date. This process will prompt him to either want to commit or continue to play the field. In any event, he's got to come clean for you to ever be able to fully trust him.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It depends, how serious are you two? I mean have you been together a while or just a short time. If it's a short time, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt..at least until you find out different. I mean dating doesn't mean you have to give up all your privacy to someone who you don't know if you'll be with a month from now.
If you've been together a long time then I'd say he's hiding something. If he's not willing to "share" then you have a decision to make. I think you must already be suspicious if you're asking the question. Follow your instincts, they're right more often then not. Good luck.

Answer 4

My husband has for two years never let me touch hold browse, or even answer his phone. He has actually left me because I picked it up and took it from him....I finally after him leaving and coming back 26 times, did some investigative work on my own. Its not hard to get cell phone records or even trace phone numbers he has been calling.

Low and behold.........the answers smacking me in the face.....and still I beleive his excuses for everything. He now has a new secret cell phone, I have never seen it or know where it is or even the #. But I'll be damn if the overtime hours, he says he has worked for the past 6 weeks never accounted for. Basically there were none.

This is my last straw, he is very verbally and mentally abusive, to the point of where I don't function anymore. He refuses to acknowledge that his income is my income, and won't ever allow me access to the funds or have joint accounts. Everytime he has left, sometimes for days,......sometimes for months, he takes every cent we have, cancels all the bill checks he's written, and leaves the three kids and I hungry and abandonded.

I left two days ago, to recoup and figure out how I'm going to make it, when I come home and he abuses me, holds me prisoner in my own house, and destoys my inner spirit that wants to fly away so high!!!!!!!!!!!1

I put my car up for sale, I have a decent job offer that I can walk to, until I can finance another. I hope noone ever goes through what I have. Listen to your instincts. They are probably right, and if they are not make him/her prove it to you.

Pray for me..........last time I tried to kill myself....

Answer 5

It's not hard to see that he's hiding something from you... I bet he hides a lot more when your not around him.. It's useless to keep arguing with him if he can't give you any real answers...and you deserve to have one.. Next time it happens just leave him where ever he's at while he's on the phone with that person... and then don't talk to him the rest of the day... don't give in....let him wonder what your up to and he'll get the point your not going to put up with it... If that doesn't phase him then I would put an end to all the worrying and break up with him...

Answer 6

Unless you don't trust him, believe him. I do the same thing he does. I'm not up to no good, it's just easier to talk when you don't feel like someone is listening to your every word. I've never cheated on my husband, never even thought about it, but everyone is entitled to have a private conversation if they want to. He's getting annoyed and defensive because of what you're implying by questioning him all the time. Stop it.

Answer 7

The way I see it you have two options 1) believe him and let it go or 2) look at his calls list in his phone when hes not around. But remember just because it says a certain name it might not be that person... so jot down the numbers and find out who he is really talking too (my friend went through this and her man was cheating)

Answer 8

He's probably hiding something from you....and if he's really good at it you may never discover what that is. That could explain his getting mad and defensive...and it's his way of getting you to stop bringing the subject up. You need to evaluate how much you like this guy and how much you want to stay in the relationship....trust is a hard issue. Examine other patterns of behavior that he has displayed since you've been together that could indicate whether or not he is trustworthy. good luck

Answer 9

Forgive my bluntness, but, get a clue, he's cheating. I too do this and it's because the girl that I am with can't hear the conversation with the girl I'm gonna see later. If he were not being deceptive he would talk in the room your in. Payback is a B#tch though, you should start taking your cellphone calls in another room....that'll stop him!

Answer 10

My boyfriend of 4 years does the same thing. He has to walk around and talk at the same time. He even does it with his family. It angered me in the beginning of our relationship, but I learned to get used to it. He wasn't doing anything wrong, but to me it felt like he was. I am sure it is the same for your situation. Don't confront him, just mention it to him casually. Or follow him around, pretend you need to get something from the room he is in, once you realize there is nothing to worry about then you will accept his need to walk and talk.