what should i do....i love him.....weve been together 7yrs.....but i know now that its not going to work out....i think he is using me....and i need some advice as to what my next step should be.
2006-11-08 03:24:55 · 19 answers · asked by Jackeeeee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if u know U R goin to have probs later on in ur relationship, y r u wastin ur time? ok, mayb ur not steppin forward n leavin him coz ur in love wit him right now, but u know anyway dat its not gonna work later on, think of the child, if u dunt leave him now, wot will happen wen da child grows?
isnt it better to leave him and find sum1 better before ur child grows up and sees for himself ur relationship its a total mess?
juss think of da child...
2006-11-08 03:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to think long about this. If you don't think its going to work out, then go your own separate ways. If you want to stay just because of your child, just ask yourself if you can give your baby a better life with his father or by yourself or with someone else. No child is going to be happy when his parents don't get along. No child likes to see either one of his parents miserable. I've been on both sides of this, as the child and as the parent. My parents got divorced, and even though it was hard, they are both so much happier now. My daughter's father was posessive and immature, no future loser who doesn't even bother to call her for her birthday and I know I would be miserable if I stayed. But its up to you, I hope that if you do split, he will at least be man enough to take care of his child with both time and support. Good luck
2006-11-08 03:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already decided on your course of action. Just Do It.
If you are asking me to agree with you and Salve your concience then you will be waiting a long time. Why do some relationships last for 50 years and others are finished in 7? Both parties have to be committed to making it work and be flexible not rigid. Apparently you have decided that He will never change(probably untrue) and you are hell bent on ending it for your own reasons. It is very rarely all His fault or All your fault, but you have decided that he is the ENTIRE problem so You have become rigid and there is no fixing it. You have also become insulting of your mate and I would bet that you are just as insulting to his face.
Are you sure that it is only him who is immature or is it both of you?
2006-11-08 03:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Paul S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously lack the ability to tell the difference between men and immature little boys. Yet you sleep with them and get pregnant.
It's not just his fault is my point - it's yours too. Women love to say "my ex is a loser" but never see *they* are the ones who slept with that loser! Over and over and over until they got pregnant!
Your next step: mature some yourself - dump him; stop thinking you have to have *a* man - any man - in your life. Learn how to raise your child responsibly, and in your spare time that used to be spent sleeping with immature little boys, read up on how to be a better judge of character.
Once you grow up some yourself and focus on your child and a job and becoming a more mature individual and less on what hottie stud is sleeping with you, a better class of men - not immature little boys - will start appearing in your life.
2006-11-08 03:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that it isn't going to work then why are you with him? Why? for your child? Now that you have acknowledged the fact that it isn't going to work, break up with him. You think he's using you? It is so easy for a guy to deceive his baby mother out of paying child support and getting taken to court, if he just stays with her. I'm pretty sure you two have had your ons and offs. Everytime you were off, you probably said something about taking him to court, and before you know it, you two are back together.
If you know your man isn't going to change and is with you b/c he is using you, then why do you stay with him? Why do you feed into him? Break up with him. Do what you have to do for you.
2006-11-08 03:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the basis for all relationship questions....What does he bring to the relationship? For example, is he supportive, does he provide financial assistance, is he a good lover, is he your best friend. If you cannot find a positive answer to any of these questions then it is time to move on. If you can do better without him then let him go. I know it is easier said then done, but if he is doing nothing for you then you should do nothing for him.
2006-11-08 03:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From now on, assume ALL men are immature little boys until they prove to you that they are real men.
2006-11-08 03:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love him and yet you call him an immature little boy? You say you've been 'together' for 7 years - does that mean your married? You need to offer a little more info, please.
2006-11-08 03:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you take such big decisions in your life so foolishly....It has been 7 yrs now so that immature little boy should have become "man".
You yourself is immature...BTW
2006-11-08 03:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Knowliz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
next time u decide to have a child with someone, make sure u dont ASSUME... be sure! if u think he is using u, then leave him...
2006-11-08 03:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋