Well my grandma seems to think that I am taking the wrong path. I want to be a lawyer or a doctor {im 15}. She was like " you should be a social worker". And i told her that i all ready have my mind made up and she seems like shes mad because i told her I want a better life than what i do right now... Money wise... I dunno how to explain to her that i dont want to live in the ghetto all of my life without hurting her and my moms feelings. And evreytime i bring it up they get mad... Any advice?? Please and thank you.. Have a nice day
2006-11-08 03:21:45 · 6 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are explaining it to them the same way you have said it here, you have insulted them. Granted, they should be happy that you want better, but to say that you want a better life than what you have now (the life they have given you), you are hurting them. You are telling them that they have not provided for you the way you would have wanted them to. Its painful to hear.
Maybe at this point, you can tell them you want to be a doctor (you can change to lawyer later if you want) and explain that its what you want because you want to be able to help others. Focus your reasons on the need to be able to bring health and happiness to other people and not the money you would be making.
2006-11-08 03:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you may change your mind about your career path several more times. I think the important thing is that you have goals and ambition and are willing to work toward a goal. I work in middle school and so many kids today have no ambition or goals, they all want to be rap stars or play in the NBA/NFL. Nobody is willing to work for anything. My nephew dropped out of high school after 9th grade and just lays around the house unless his friends come get him to go get drunk or high, and his mom doesn't see anything wrong with that as long as they can afford to support him. Don't worry about what your grandma thinks, just smile and tell her you are happy she is concerned, but you need to make your own choices, even if they are wrong.
2006-11-08 11:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still have time to set your future plans in motion, but until then you need to explain to her why you want to do this. maybe find out why its so important to her for you to take the path she wants you to. over all its your decision and she will love you no matter what the choice is,but until then relax and enjoy being 15 you will have lots of time to worry about that later on. also keep in mind the career you choose needs to be based on the enjoyment that you get from it, not the money. if its something you are passionate about then things seem to fall into place no matter what your income.
2006-11-08 11:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by natrich24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you gotta do and be you. They have lived their life and seems that they vicariously want to live through yours. But you have to live and lead your life for yourself, so Go to school and be what you want to be, when their gone you're left to your own demise, so don't live it the way they want you to, be and do what makes you happy. You don't owe them an explanation, and if you feel guilty just say yes and OK to make they happy. Make your grades, get a scholarship if possible and DO YOUR THING!
2006-11-08 11:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by anadah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand your ground. It's your life. They should be proud of you. But, be proud of them too. They sound like they are just set in their ways and in the backwoods, respectfully.
Be patient, but firm. As time gets near college, reinforce your plans.
2006-11-08 11:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just stick with your idea...A lawyer or a doctor is a great choice ...Don't be upset with them though ..They are just worried but don't let anyone tell you to go and do something else ...
2006-11-08 11:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋