When we use words like "queen", quee_, fa_, etc when describing our self or other gays, do we send out mixed signals (even when the intent is humorous).
Or do we take the words away from the bigots?
2006-11-08 03:19:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Stacia: if it applies to lesbians then apply it, i do not have the perspective of what lesbians say. Relax, its just perspective of questioner, not an agenda
2006-11-08 03:33:01 · update #1
As has already been observed, using the words ourselves takes it away from the bigots, like black people saying "Hey n*gg*r" as a friendly joking greeting. BDSM people do it as well, "Yo, perv" for example. Words, and, by extension, the bigots who use them, have as much power over us as we choose to give them. They already have the church and government, let's not give them the very language we speak.
2006-11-08 07:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty common, and not a bad thing. It is not as disrespectful when a gay person uses these terms because it's light hearted. It's just like a black person saying the word "******" or the fat kid at school joking about how much he eats.
2006-11-08 11:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Emily B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like all words it is the context in which they are used. A person can use the words in a way that can show fellowship I.E. "we are all a bunch of old queens" when he is talkign to his friends. Yet some young kid can say that to a groug of older men and it mean quit the opposite.
2006-11-08 11:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend always uses the word "dyke" in reference to herself.
If you take the hateful words away from the haters and use them yourself, you are taking away some of their ammunition.
To paraphrase Shakespeare, "That which we call a dyke, by any other name will smell as sweet!"
(And she does smell good. Like vanilla.)
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2006-11-08 11:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
words have power but I think using hateful words can make the words seem more common place. And they are still just as hateful. Ignoring hateful words and those that use them is a much batter way to respond to bigotry. Bigots want attention, I refuse to give it to them.
2006-11-08 11:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
We choose to use the derogatory terms - "gay"; "fa----"; "queen"; "queer"; - instead of letting just "straights" use them so that we own those words instead of the words owning us.
2006-11-08 11:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Interesting... Is it that you don't get or don't care that lesbians are in the same boat as you on this one?
:) just an observation
2006-11-08 11:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those that do that don't take anything from bigots, they become them...
2006-11-08 11:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋