My lover has suggested that we might make some home movies of our lovemaking. I have let him take some still pictures in the past. He is responsible and considerate and I know that he would never take advantage of me. I think this would be kind of fun and the idea really turns me on - I've been thinking about it all morning.
Does anyone have ideas or personal experience with this? What are your thoughts or advice?
2006-11-08 03:17:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why do it ?
you have to think all it take is one upload and it is on the net forever! you will never be able to remove it! some day you might want kids what if they find it?
what if you run for public office that could be used as black-male?
you here so many stories "it was just one time" "i was a little crazy in collage"
i think you are taking a major chance ~¿Ô
2006-11-08 03:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do so then you keep the copy of the video. You never know who may see these pics/videos if anything bad should happen to your relationship. You could end up with your face and other body parts shown all over the world via the Internet or just be shown to other people that you both know. Whatever your comfortable with is my best advice, but that you retain possession of all material.
2006-11-08 11:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always the risk that at some point he'd misuse them, like showing off to a friend, or worse if he ever gets mad at you. So you need to control the film.
Instead of film, why not consider placing a large mirror near the bed or sofa or rug (or wherever) and watch events as they really happen? That might be even more exciting.
2006-11-08 11:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it in two marriages, and on relationship. Just try to agree that if the moment comes if the video should be destroyed, then it will be, however it is a real turn on, and if you both agree to do it , let one partner set the video camera without the other knowing when its on. This is very erotic. I have never had any problems!
2006-11-08 11:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you trust him, it shouldn't be an issue. I made a few with my wife. If you skeptical at first, just try plugging the camera up to the TV with no video rolling and watch what it would look like. This may make the both of you more comfortable when the camera is really taping.
2006-11-08 11:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the risks... if your now "wonderful" relationship ever goes bad in the future, any pictures or video tapes could end up in the wrong hands. Having said that, if you still want to then you are 2 consenting adults, go for it.
2006-11-08 11:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mensa Head 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no ideas but I will say if this what you and your lover wants to do to make your relationship more fun then go for it and have fun...especially if you trust him.
2006-11-08 11:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a close friend who did this and she came up with the funniest solution (in order to protect herself). She agreed, but only if she could wear a ski mask! Too funny.
2006-11-08 11:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by tarro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is sexy and fun but there are risks involved. I always say, if you are afraid of anyone seeing what you do then don't leave any evidence. With that, my wife and I tape ourselves all the time. We have even taped our parties. But if you are even remotely ashamed if someone ever got hold of them than don't do it.
2006-11-08 11:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, plain and simple. Things can get into the wrong hands a zillions of different ways. My sister and her husband were robbed and had their wedding videos stolen, of all things....
2006-11-08 14:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋