im always wondering,why do men cheat? im scared just thinking about it! as a wife im doing everything to make my man happy.is it normal for a married man to look inside a porn site?i saw my husband his on the website of escort girls,erotic massage.does this mean i didnt satisfy him in bed?i asked him this once,and he answer me with a yes! am i just being paranoid? someone please help me.
2006-11-08 03:16:22 · 11 answers · asked by rcy123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just may have something to worry about. If he is satisfyed, what is he looking at the things you mentioned. There was a time when I had a really good marriage, and I never had any desire for such, even payed no attention to the young flirts.
It is going to be hard to get him to tell you the truth. I do not mind telling you all that I can as a man, but If you would like to email me use chop0057@hotmail.com I can be more objective and learn more about your particular situitation. G
2006-11-08 03:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by compassion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a man who loved porn, but also was very into me. I was extremely jealous of the porn at first, but grew to realize he used it as a form of escape, and it didn't have anything to do with his attraction level for me. I don't think looking at porn is anywhere near the same thing as "cheating". If he is chatting with real people, that's different. That could lead to cheating, and I would worry about that.
People don't want to hear this, but I think most men probably look at porn. Porn is a rather new phenomenon in our society (I'm talking over the last 100 years or so), and its availability gets easier every day. It will be interesting to see if it leads a larger societal issues, as have drugs.
Porn can be addicting. If a person wants to escape into it and often, this can be a problem. I sometimes think I'm addicted to this stupid Q&A on here!
But I never found my ex to be unfaithful, so I must say I don't think porn will lead to infidelity.
2006-11-08 03:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by tarro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe for both parties if either partner is truly getting everything thing they need in a relationship there is no need to be looking elsewhere. unfortunately some people are lacking something and they don't even know what it is.
People cheat because they are not being fulfilled its actually really simple. It might be emotional fulfillment, it might be physical, it might be lack of support or encouragement, it be out of boredom (lack of spice) but its always something.
The best thing I think a loving couple should do is together realize that this is the case. (meaning that sometimes we are not completely fulfilled and that sometimes we don't know why) Secondly make a commitment that if either of you personally realize that you are longing for something more. Do a self assessment to find out what it is and share that with your partner. This will lead to better communication and it should be easier to make the adjustments so that both of you are completely fulfilled.
2006-11-08 03:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Almack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not think in terms of porn in itself being the fore runner to cheating. I would worry more if hub was on chat lines ...rooms etc and e mailing women. Men are visual creatures and this is probably notsomething new in his life only the knowledge of it is new to you. Many men look....in fact all men look. Out abd about they look....notice clevage, legs, etc and imagine the rest but it does not mean they would cheat with any they look at. Relax, and enjoy what you share.....you are a couple.
2006-11-08 03:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he answered yes, then there is a problem. Ask him what you can do for him in bed that would make him stop looking for other women. If he still does it, you have a real problem brewing. Make sure you have a skill so you can support yourself and family if there are kids involved.....Some men just cheat for the thrill of the chase, no other reason besides sex. Good luck, honey.
2006-11-08 03:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
fullfiment. which could be in an infinite amout of ways, depends on the person.
Plan a weekend alone at home or away, and tell him to write a very detailed "Script" for his perfect weekend and give it to you on thursday to prepare. It may include working on his car for 6 hrs.. and...it may include watching a spicy movie with you. The point is to take clues and incorporate them in your everyday life. Communication is key, but its not as easy as we like to make it seem. Its sometimes hard to tell a spouse what they want because they dont want to seem selfish or hurt the other party.
if you have success, you can ask for your turn to write the script. It also makes for cheap vacations!
2006-11-08 03:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's just getting Ideas on things to do with you. As far as why men cheat, it is usaully because there is something in the relationship that we are not getting and afraid to ask for for fear of rejection.
2006-11-08 03:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for man's to look at porn, married and unmarried. if you scare of you husband may be cheationg on you. then do everything the you can to make him happy
2006-11-08 03:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of two things:
A) You are not satisfying him in bed (despite what you think)
B) He just has a need for variety (if this is the case you are in big trouble)
2006-11-08 04:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is usually not about emotions for men --- its all about sex
no matter how satisfied they are with their current partner they want to experience different so they cheat
for them not to cheat all they have to do is respect their partner more --- its surprisingly easy to do
2006-11-08 03:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋