My g/f's doctor is a bych - how can I deal with what happened?

Question

She'd had probs(thrush, from what I can gather) since last Thurs, visited a female doc @ her uni practice yesterday.

N.B. All this below is according to her

Doctor asked her whether she'd had sex (gf told her about my 1-night stand and how I'd been tested for that - I've told her about it, BTW - and how she's never been with anyone else AT ALL) and the doctor said that she'd never had sex, purely because she'd never done a boy!!

gf was prescribed some cream. Thing is, there's a white side and a green side to prescription slips in the UK, and normally the patient gets given the white side to keep.
The doctor screwed up the white side and threw it away, so now gf doesn't think she can even get her prescription.

She phoned me up in tears about it y/day, and I, frankly, am fkn angry about how she was treated.

P.S. Anyone who remembers my q "Think I'm bi (kinda cheated - uh-oh?)?", I've never had it and wouldn't have passed it on to her. I'm currently awaiting results

She made a complaint to Reading 9her uni) LGBT and they just said something along the lines of ignore her, doctors are ignorant.

I don't feel like this is remotely helpful and feel like something else should be done.... but WHAT?!?!?!

stacia, If she DID pick up anything from doing somebody without protection, it would've been ME! I was the one who'd cheated.

She's going to a walk-in clinic on Thursday and I'm worried for her in case she needs to go the doctor again for anything else (sexual or not). She's also needle-phobic (She literally can't be in the same room as somebody dealing with needles of the syringical variety), so.....

Very good answer, though.

samiracat, where would I find this book you so highly recommend (I don't think it'd be on Amazon somehow....)

Answer 1

You're right, no one should be diminished like that, especially by a doctor in an authority role who's obligation is to treat medical problems without espousing their moral ignorance.

That said, I wonder if some of your anger isn't being funneled at the doctor than at you g/f picking up what may be due to unprotected sex with someone else. That possibility has to be floating around in your head somewhere, even if you aren't quite aware. Hope that's not the case but it could be. Anyway, let the doc thing go. It's wasted emotion.

Answer 2

Can't make a specific call on your question, BUT.....

Think y'all might be interested in _Health Care Without Shame: A Handbook for the Sexually Diverse and Their Caregivers_, by Charles Moser, Ph.D., MD. It's published by Greenery Press, and I'm on about my fifth copy (having passed on a bunch to other people, including fellow health care providers).

It's a really good book on discussing your needs and concerns with providers, and finding ones that can deal with special issues. There's also a couple of chapters in the back for health care professionals, that can provide very fast thumbnail sketches of "what it is that we/ X group does". Have found this to be absolutely fantastic when having to bring someone up to speed in a real hurry.

As a nurse, I strongly recommend this book for ANY person who is sexually active or anticipating activity....but it's a goldmine for the folks in the alt-sexuality communities of all types.

Do hope that things work well with you and your g/f, and that your results come out fine....play safe, sane, and consensually, and here's to a good future to y'all!