Have you ever heard someone whining about what a bad childhood they had, and if so, was it justifiable?

Answer 1

Whining about that is common - wheter or not it's justified is debatable. There are many shades of grey for every story, so take the whiner's point of view with a grain of salt.

Regardless, a bad childhood, no matter how it may handicap you, is no excuse to pass on the abuse to another generation.

Answer 2

Yeah, I heard plenty of it.

Sometimes I think people go through a phase where they get curious about psychology and why they act the way they do, and then they might get into the "blame game" or even just trying to figure out WHY they act a certain way. Sometimes it is just something people outgrow.
Sometimes people decide they are becoming a bore and stop it.

But then some of it is justifiable. People can have a lot of pain from past experiences, and some people, in the emotional state they are in, do not know what to do about it and then can not stop talking about it, even if it is in an inappropriate place or at an inappropriate time.

I hate to talk about myself to the extent that I bother people, so I tend to save it for the therapist.
and i do not have a justifiably bad childhood to whine about, most of my problems and upsets come from bad choices I made. But it doesnt' stop me from getting upset or feeling the need to whine and complain. (have to restrain myself A LOT to the point where I almost don't even talk some days)

But as for people having justifiable reasons to whine, well there are plenty, but it's not right to just whine indiscriminately to anyone who will listen. You have to talk to a trusted friend, family member or therapist. And if it's friends and family you have to be careful you don't make them resent you for it. (by overindulging)

Answer 3

Absolutely!

I knew someone whose parents were totally psycho! They had raised her and her siblings in a commune type situation - then moved out to some remote farm with no running water or utilities at all. The Dad molested her repeatedly - then made her brothers molest her. The parents got tangled up in some sort of satanic cult b.s. and began to "bleed" the evil out of her - somewhere along the line the mother decied it would be good to tell her that she tried to abort her when she was pregnant and - the dad then proceeded to sell her into prostitution - with his friends, nonetheless!

I wouldn't call what she did whining by any stretch of the immagination - she did the best she could, based on where she came from - just to survive - let alone thrive in any positive way.

Answer 4

It honestly is justifiable to "whine" about whatever! Please, people have emotions and sometimes they need to vent. Depending on how bad this persons childhood was, depends on how much "credit" and leverage you will give them to "whine" - I find that really cruel to say that. I would encourage your friend to talk to a counselor and get help so that you do not feel bogged down by their "whining" - you sound annoyed by it and I don't believe you would be a good support system for this person.
Be well and take care of yourself!
be kind.
-laura

Answer 5

It depends on the age they are now we can not always control what happens when we are children based on the fact that grown ups run most of are young lives once a person is grown and in control of there own action reactions Decisions it is time to quit whining and get a life make a life and enjoy the freedom of accepting your own ups downs living in the past is only slowing down future positional

Answer 6

I would say yes.And it's not whining!I'm pissed!That I had no choice!
I feel that I had a bad childhood, only because if I had known what kind of life I was going to end up with,I had wished that I had'nt been born.This what people call life sucks!To be put here and have to go thru hell and end up dead in the end.

Answer 7

yeah -my ex husband - blamed everything on his childhood - used to complain cause he said my childhood was so much better - not that mine was a picnic, i just didn't believe in sitting around and crying about it & using it as an excuse for being stuck in life - after years of sympathy, i finally told him to get over it, get professional help, move on, see the glass as half-full, but he just couldn't do it - i ultimately left him & now he sits in a little 2 room apt feeling sorry for himself - what a sad existence for a 55 yr old man who never got over his childhood.

Answer 8

I don't want to hear it because I had such a good childhood with a lot of friends and a loving family.

Answer 9

a youthful lady on a theatre undertaking as quickly as stated as in sick with the aid of fact she grew to become into having prostate issues. This grew to become into years in the past, and that i ponder whether she ever found out that purely men have prostates.

Answer 10

That was what i used to do and i guess when someone wines about it its because they are trying to find a way to deal with it all so that they can put it to rest.