I have an unhealthy paranorma about my wife being unfaithful. What can I do about it.?

Question

Here aer the details. My obsession (I do mean obsession) w/ my wife cheating is unbelievablie strong. I dwell on it, look for signs, it consumes me at time. I will go through the entire house looking for hidden things that I never find. But I can't seem to quell the thoughts. She says I need to seek professional help. I have extreme trust issues and I am not sure where they stem from. All I know that it is consuming me and ruining my relationship w/ the woman I love. What should I do?

Thank you all for the responses... Now the the next question is... I'm a little on the broke side right now... where should I look for either free or inexpensive counseling?

Answer 1

Hi Cory,
I would suggest finding a Christian church and talking with the Pastor. He can counsel you and lift you up in prayer along with the rest of the church...and it is free and there is definite results. Prayer is very powerful. God's Word (Bible) says:
2Tim 1:7
7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

Fear, obsession, suspicion etc...is not from God, it is from satan. And he is trying to destroy you & your marriage. Don't let him. You CAN overcome. The Bible says:

1Peter 5:8
8 Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

If you can join a Bible Study and get into God's Word. God has helped my marriage tremendously. I used to be paranoia & insecure etc...Not good. You will see how peaceful, joyful & confident you will feel. Also you can try reading "Power of a Praying Husband" by Stormie Omartian. Very Good.

I pray God directs you.

God Bless!

Answer 2

What are the reasons that you feel she is being unfaithful. A feeling so strong may mean that she is cheating on you. But you will never know if she knows that you are always paranoid and suspecting. Because if she really is cheating then she will be on high guard and very careful. If you really want to find out if she is cheating or not, I would suggest not being so paranoid and suspecting. I have an ecourse that can help you find what u need to know the truth in about 10 days here...

http://www.HowToSpotACheatIn10Days.com

Now If you are sure she isn't and just writing it off as paranoia, you need to work on building back trust in your relationship. And when I mean work it's gonna take both of you. So you may need to talk to your wife about it. Now I have an article on my blog titled "12 Ways To Build Trust In Your Relationship" I would suggest you take a look here to find it ....

http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com

I'm really curious on where this paranoia stems from. If you go to the blog, leave me an email or comment letting me know.

Best of Luck,
Drew Bryant
http://www.HowToSpotACheatIn10Days.com

Answer 3

Your wife is right.. You need to get some help. This is not a healthy way to live for either one of you. You do realize that you will drive her away from you at some point? Sounds like your self esteem is very low... What was your parents marriage like? Many things can cause you to behave the way you are. When you figure out the reason...then change can be made. Good Luck

Answer 4

I think that you probably need to see a professional to see what the root of this obsession stems from. have you been cheated on in the past? All I can tell you for sure is that it will likley turn into a self-fulfilling prophesy and you will run her off if you don't find a way to control it.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Taker her advice and seek professional help. You are only making her and yourself miserable acting this way. What you need to realize is that if she ever did be unfaithful, and Im certainly not saying she would, there is nothing you can do about it. You sweating about something that may never happen and thats no way to live. What you are doing is pushing her to do exactly what you are fearing. Stop it or you are gonna lose her for good.

Answer 6

I think that you need to see someone about it before it does ruin your relationship. First you need to sort out why you think that your wife would cheat? Has she ever given you any reason to think that she might. Think back to pervious relationships did someone cheat on you or did you know someone that was cheating.

You need to work out these issues. Maybe if you talked about them with your wife, a close family member or a friend that you felt that you could trust. Either way you need to address this problem before you drive your wife away

Answer 7

Seek professional help in your area. Obsessions aren't normal behavior, they stem from something deeper. Doesn't matter what at this point. The pro will figure it out. Good luck dude.

Answer 8

Your wife told you what to do get help. Get professional help but always get some help from your wife. Talk with her about your fears and concerns. Don't accuse her of anything because if you haven't caught her she isn't cheating. Approach the conversation with her from the standpoint that you're the one with the problem.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I agree seems that the issue is yours and not with your wife if you continue on this path she will seek comfort from someone else. You need to fill your mind with other things and get on with the business of having fun together

Answer 10

You need a counseler buddy. I had a similar situation to this and I didn't wake up and realize it til my then fiancee took our kids and left me. That was a real wake up call. Luckily I got help and we worked everything out and got married. So stop before you lose the one thing you love the most b/c she might not come back.