I have been married to my husband for 5 years, but I am still in love with my ex. My ex and I broke up because I cheated on him with my husband, but I never really stopped loving my ex. He just didn't want to be with me since I had cheated and had a child by my husband, but once he had gotten over the fact that I cheated he wanted to work things out. Now i'm married and sooooo confused. I NEED HELP!
2006-11-08 02:57:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many people don't simply fall out of love when they fall in love with another person. I've never fallen out of love with anyone I feel in love with. Six people with whom I'm still in love. Most I've not seen for many years, but a low level of feeling is still there. I met one after not seeing her for over 15 years. It was a lot like getting hit in the stomoch. Much more powerful than I'd have thought.
If you accept this about yourself and your lovers can too, then you should research polyamory. Polyamorous people form long-term, romantic and loving relationships with more than one person. Sometimes they are intimate, sometimes not, depending on the people involved. The only rule is that everyone involved knows and gives their blessing to the relationships. They are difficult even with that, to add deception or those who haven't agreed is a recipe for disaster.
I was recently in a relationship with two people. They loved each other and me. I loved both of them. The relationship lasted for about a year and a half. It still hurts thinking about the loss of them.
2006-11-08 03:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know that this is tough for you but only you can make this decision on your own, your heart is telling you that you need to be with your ex...and you are married as well...I have been down that road too being in love with another man and married too, but when it came down to it I had to do what was right and that was to make it work with my husband and that is the right thing to do...You might have feelings now for you ex husband but what makes you think that it will be better now then it was then when you first started cheating on him? See you cannot have your cake and eat it too, that was something that I had to learn and now I am passing this information to you in hope that you will be able to make the right choice and make it with a sound mind and a clear heart...make things right with your husband and forget about the past...Let the past stay in the past!
2006-11-08 03:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe your talking about love as in the way you love your family. In that case yes you can love more than 2 men at once.
But I think you are talking about love as a physical attraction thing. Since you cheated with your present man on that same basis. In that case you could always just ask them if they would mind all jumping into bed together sometime and you can have it all at once !!
Best thing to do is to think of how you would feel if they still had a thing for an X or if they were looking for someone else behind your back and asking others advise about it.
2006-11-08 03:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a fix, for sure. It's very possible to love 2 men, because we love everyone in a different way. That being said - - - Now, your primary responsibility is to your child and your child's father. So, get over your ex and enjoy what you have. Like Dorothy says at the end of the movie, when the Good Witch Glenda asked what she had learned in the land of Oz: "If I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any further than my own backyard, cause if it isn't there, I never really lost it to begin with."
2006-11-08 03:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by Valarie7979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be in love is a confusing thing. To love two at once is double the trouble. I love my ex who is in Iraq. We still talk over email like we did when we were together. I also love my brother's roomie... My advice, tell your hubby you are taking a weekend vacay and take a little time to think on who makes YOU happy. That is the person who loves you most.... But something to think on, Will the ex that you cheated on, would he leave you because of an underlying grudge?
2006-11-08 03:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think my opinion will mean much but I think Man #1 is the guy you should be with. You start Man #2s description with 'very successful, handsome' then 'sweet man'. I don't know if you did that on purpose. But if that was just what came out of your head you can sort of see why I feel Man #2 isn't right for you. If you know what I'm sayn. I think Man #1 makes you happy and even though you don't know if you would move, if you guys officially got together and got things moving you would see a clearer path
2016-05-21 21:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated on him with your husband it is because your husband was the one you wished to be with, not him.
When reality sets in you tend to think of all the what if's. Enjoy your child, and enjoy your husband, and cut ties with Mr. History. Soon, he will be just that. After all, if you loved him you would not have cheated, and if he loved you, then he would've realised it BEFORE you got married.
And you're sure he's not messing with you to get some kind of sick revenge?... just a thought...
2006-11-08 03:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he mean by work things out? does he want to marry you? does he want to be responsible for you and your kid by another man? is he willing to forgive and forget everything? the two of you seems to be so much in love, if the answer to my questions are yes then go ahead and give your love a second chance. but think things through. Is it so bad with your husband that you are willing to hurt him? Don't be selfish. think of your kid, too. His world will be turned upside down when this happens. there are many things to consider not just what you feel.
2006-11-08 03:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by stone x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move on from your ex. yeah all these love stuffs get you all caught up in a whirlwind at times. but the point is you are married for 5 years already, and you have a child. what you had with your ex was then in the past. nt now. things are not the same anymore. are you happy with your marriage now? it is too bad for the ex who couldnt be more forgiving then? but why wreck up your entire marriage and rearrange your life for this new comeback in your life?
2006-11-08 03:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible but it could cause problems...You have been with your husband for 5 years ...Stay with him because if you go back to your ex, the first time things don't go his way he is going to bring up the fact you cheated on him.....You don't want to go back into all tha now do you...Stay with your husband , your ex is just wanting to mess things up ...don't let him do it
2006-11-08 03:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋