Why do people marry and divorce like it's no big deal?

Question

Besides the obvious abusive marriages, i don't understand why the divorce rate is so high. It is hard to believe that over 50% of marriages fail. It's sad.

Answer 1

Because people are lazy and don't have the power of their convictions.

Marriage is very hard work. It involves compromise and compromise is a very difficult thing for most to do. It's a constant give and take. It's constantly finding a common ground. It's opening your heart and leaving yourself vulnerable in front of another. It's trust.

In this day of commercialized me me me everything I mentioned is just way too much work.

Although I'm not religious I believe in the promise I made to my wife. I believe that my conviction is stronger than most so called "Christians" they're the one's getting the divorce.

Answer 2

You wanna know why marriages fail? It is because people don't want to try to work things out anymore, they feel that running is the best option....Also marriage fails because of financial reasons, people have drifted from each other depending on who many years they have been together, or they lost the attraction to that person that got them in the first place...You must understand that most people don't realize that they are not ready to get married, they think that is some sort of fantasy but in actuallity it isn't...It's high because of the failure of communication as well...All of these things that I have mention is fact and that this is why marriages don't last no more than 5 years...If you find a married couple that has been married more than 5 years than that is good, but think about this...If people would be more understanding with each other and communicate more the divorce rate wouldn't be so high

Answer 3

A lot of reasons. People getting married young because they want to move out and away. People getting married young because they are having a kid together. People getting married young and then they grow up and change (like all people do when they grow up) and then realize they arent right for each other.

and then the huge kicker, people have no morals anymore. Too many people cheat, lie, are abusive, its ridiculous.

Marriage is no longer a sacred thing. Its a thing down at whim, at the drop of a hat. And therefore, so is divorce.

I do like the guy above me's answer about how much work it is to keep a marriage going. It is a lot of give and take. There are a lot of sacrifices. And many people marry someone and then try to change them. If you dont like the person for them before you are married, dont marry them in hopes you can change them.

You're right. It is sad.

Answer 4

To many people go into marriage thinking that if it doesn't work out I just get a divorce. I see alot of people getting married because the girl is pregnant and doesn't even really know the guy she is marrying and of course it only last a year. I think people should date at least 2 years before deciding to marry so they can really get a chance to know each other and to decide if this is really the person they want to spend the rest of their life with.

Answer 5

I think people grow up thinking marriage is a fairytale. Our american culture is saturated with movies like "sleepless in seattle" which tell their audience that there is only ONE person out there for them that will meet every need mystically, with no work, and no effort. This just isn't true. Marriage takes work, compromise, dedication, and selflessness. Many things people don't think about. When things get tough, the easiest thing is to leave and find someone new. We have a "Grass is greener on the other side" culture where everyone is trying to get the next best thing. Probem is people get to the other side and realize the grass is exactly the same over there. Still needs work!!

Answer 6

I believe that people divorce because it's the easy way out. When they have a problem instead of trying to work through it they get a divorce! People these days just give up too easy! They don't take marriage seriously! It's not always good and it's not always bad! If you are willing to take the good with the bad you can make a marriage work! People just need to take their commitments more seriously!! Instead of running at the first sign of trouble, people need to try harder to work through whatever is going on!

Answer 7

My marriage ended in divorce and it was a big deal to me. We did try to make it work with counseling but sometimes people do grow apart and unfortunately there is nothing that can be done about that. I say now that I will never get married again because I do not want to EVERY have to go through what I went through again.

Answer 8

Yes, it is. I think it's because people don't take time to know each other well before they marry. They don't communicate. People don't take commitments seriously. They don't understand the concept of marriage. Sad, but true. Hollywood is a wonderful example!! Half the people you read about there are constantly changing partners or wife's/husbands left and right. But understanding WHY this happens will help your marriage SUCCEED!!!

Answer 9

your right - it is sad - i know i was married once myself, its easy to think things last forever - but its not like that most of the time...
Seems people are never satisfied, even when children are involved...but i guess if your not happy its best for all to end it and get on with a life that will be better - for all parties....i respect the meaning of marraige but i wonder why some people dont...guess the world may never know... before long there will be no sense in getting married if the divorce rates keep going up...

Answer 10

A lot of people get married too soon and for the wrong reasons. Its important to find someone that you are truly compatible with. Marriage takes work a lot people are not willing to work things out. They feel that divorce is the easy way out.