How do I stop my male boss from saying bad things about my husband?

Question

My male boss asked me to go to a concert with him and I just got married.My husband said he doesn't think its appropriate for me to go to a concert with another man.I agree with him.I told my boss I couldn't go and the reason.And now he's acting horrible to me.He keeps saying mean things about how ugly my husband is and I asked him a question about changing my taxes and he said go ask your husband he knows everything.He's made other mean comments too.Please help me calm down I'm ready to walk out the door even though I can't afford to.

Answer 1

Your boss wants you and will do anything to make you leave your husband.. obviously hes a sick man. I would suggest keeping your private life private and only discussing professional matters at work. If it continues, complain higher up, or file a hostile work environment complaint with the HR department.

Answer 2

You are obviously sexually harrased by the man. In legal terms, sexual harassment is any unwelcome sexual advance or conduct on the job that creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive working environment. Most states have their own fair employment practices laws that prohibit sexual harassment -- many of them more strict than the federal law.
There are a number of things that you should do to protect yourself.
Initially, you can try telling the harasser to stop. Although this confrontation may be difficult for you, it is often the most effective way of dealing with harassment. When confronted directly, harassment is especially likely to end if it is at a fairly low level: off-color jokes, inappropriate comments about your husband relation, or repeated requests for dates after you have said no.
If the harasser ignores your oral requests to stop, or if you are uncomfortable talking to the harasser face to face, write a succinct letter demanding an end to the behavior. Be sure to keep a copy.
If communicating with the harasser doesn't end the harassment, you should escalate your complaint within the company. Check your company's employee handbook, personnel policies, or manual. Is there a sexual harassment or complaint policy? If so, follow it. If not, ask someone in the human resources or personnel department how to make a sexual harassment complaint. If you don’t get a good answer, complain to every manager and supervisor you can -- and document everything. (See below for tips on how to document your actions.)
Start by collecting as much detailed evidence as possible about the specifics of your harassment. Be sure to save any offensive letters, photographs, cards, or notes you receive. Keep journal write what he said with specific time and date.
If complaining to your employer doesn’t help, the next step is to go to your state fair employment office. If all investigation and settlement attempts fail to produce satisfactory results, you can file a civil lawsuit for damages under either Title VII or your state fair employment practices statute.
The EEOC or state agency may decide to prosecute your case on your behalf, but that happens rarely. More commonly, at some point, the agency will issue you a document referred to as a "right-to-sue" letter that allows you to take your case to court with your own lawyer.

Answer 3

FIRST OFF IS HE THE OWNER OF THE COMPANY, #2 THIS IS A FORM OF HARASSMENT AND LET HIM KNOW YOU WILL NOT PUT UP WITH IT, AND IF HE DOES NOT STOP YOU WILL CALL EEOC ON HIM, START DOCUMENTING EVERYTHING HE SAYS DATES, AND TIME. AND IF YOU CAN RECORD HIM. NO AMOUNT OF MONEY IS WORTH THE BULLSHI!T SO TELL YOUR HUSBAND AND LET YOUR HUSBAND HANDLE IT . AND YES BECAUSE YOU TURNED DOWN A DATE THAT'S WHEN THIS STARTED SO IT'S ACTUALLY SEXUAL HARASSMENT. AND IF HE IS NOT THE BOSS THEN YOU NEED TO START LETTING OTHER PEOPLE NO WHAT'S GOING ON. BUT I SAY LEAVE BECAUSE IT'S GONNA GET WORST AND YOUR BOSS KNOWS YOU NEED THE MONEY SO HE THINKS IT'S OK BECAUSE YOU WONT DO ANYTHING BECAUSE YOU NEED YOUR JOB. DOES YOUR HUSBAND WORK ? HE CAN'T HOLD YOU DOWN UNTIL YOU FIND SOMETHING BETTER. AND IS HE MAD OR WHAT, HOW COME HE DID NOT TELL YOU TO QUIT. THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN THE FIRST THING HE SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOU. HE DON'T WANT YOU TO GO OUT WITH YOUR BOSS , I'M SURE YOU TOLD HIM WHAT'S GOING ON (RIGHT) SO HE SHOULD NOT WANT YOU SUBJECTED TO THIS KIND OF ABUSE. OR IS IT OK JUST AS LONG AS YOU DON'T GO OUT WITH HIM ?

Answer 4

U shall not calm down until U punch his nose (optional) and walk out the door.

U can afford to. if u did the things above. Ur mind will become stronger, then u shall unlock the eye of courage that make u see this world is so big and there is countless ways to get a job.

this is a chance for u to learn about 'courage'.

Answer 5

First, calm down. This jerk needs to have his sails trimmed. What he's doing is sexual harrassment and it's illegal. You need to take the time to document every time he pulls crap like this, for maybe a month. If any co-workers witness the harrassment, document that, too - make sure you have the co-workers' names, the times and dates of the harrassment incidents, and what he said and did. Then take it to a lawyer. Human resources are not very likely to do much, if anything, to support you. They'll say otherwise, but experience, unfortunately, says they won't. Your lawyer will take this creep to court.

PLEASE don't fail us - if this creep is harrassing you, he's certainly done it to other women and if you don't hit him with legal action, he'll do it to others. Do you want to be responsible for allowing his rotten behavior to continue? What if he did it to your kid sister? What if he carried it even further and raped her? You OWE it to others to take a stand for what's right - and you're entitled to compensation for his behavior too! Do it!!

Answer 6

first of all what your boss is doing is illegal. Second of all you have to be more wittier than him, and put a small pocket recorder in your pocket and record what he is saying. But first ask him if you can record what he is saying without actually showing him the recorder. He sounds so stupid that he will probably think you are kidding. I can't believe that there are still plenty of men out there that do this. This guy is a real A88 wipe, and if it were my woman that man would GO DOWN.

Answer 7

Your boss does not seem professional at all and he doesn't have any respect for you or your husband. First I would tell your boss how you feel about his comments. If that doesn't help I would look for another job, because nobody needs to take that kind of criticism from another person, especially your boss

Answer 8

I think you have a sexual harassment law suite in the making. I would do some research and talk to someone from your EEO group. You did the right thing by telling him that you don't think it would be appropriate since you are married and plan to stay that way.

Answer 9

You may have had some sort of personal relationship up to this point, but now your gonna have to get all business. Tell him you dont feel it is inappropriate and you certainly dont appreciate his comments. If it continues, Im sure he has a boss to answer to, go to him/her. You may want to warn him first that this would be your next step if he doesnt straighten up.

Answer 10

Could always goto human resources, but the boss is just a man and as such he has no real power over you.

He's a bully, and bully's are scared little creatures. Call him on it, and threaten him, if he doesn't stop he can get fired.