My boyfriend and I this past weekend told our families about the new bundle of joy on the way. Everyone was thrilled and cant wait. Yet when family and friend called and visited and started calling me mommy and put their hands on my stomach i kinda felt uncomfortable. This is my first child and i dont know if its because im not used to all this attention. Anyone else feel this way with their first. Im just trying to get use to the idea of me being a mommy =)
2006-11-08 02:26:06 · 9 answers · asked by skw1559 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My family didnt kick me out come on people, ive been with my boyfriend 4 years and live with him. Its 2006 people have babies before marriage now a days. We plan on marrying eachother soon, after the baby is born so we can plan a nice wedding.
2006-11-08 02:33:39 · update #1
It's uncomfortable at first, but just get used to it, it's going to keep on. Also, be thankful that they're happy and supportive. It isn't always that way, especially since you said "boyfriend" and not husband. You could be looking at the street right now because they kicked you out for being pregnant out of wedlock. Some people still believe that's wrong.
Also, enjoy it now. Once baby's born, you get no attention, even from your own parents.
2006-11-08 02:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Congratulations!
Yes, I felt awkward until I actually felt the baby move for the first time, when I was about 23-24 weeks along.
We were actually trying to get pregnant and as soon as it happend the reality set in and I thought, "Oh no, what have I done?" I was absolutely terrified. I think that's pretty normal though.
It was so nice towards the end of my pregnancy because I got so much attention and I loved it. Every time I went to the grocery store, the bag boys refused to let me push my cart or carry anything to my car by myself. Complete strangers strike up conversations with you when they can tell you are pregnant and everyone is so nice to you. Luckily, I never had anyone - not even family - come up and touch my tummy without asking. That really would have bothered me. My baby is 3 1/2 months old now and as miserable as I was, I actually miss being pregnant. I miss feeling my baby move inside me and I miss all the attention I got too. Now, it's all about the baby and I do love when people, even men, stop me to tell me how beautiful she is! ;)
2006-11-08 03:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Julie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal to feel overwhelmed with all the attention. Prepare yourself though, it won't stop with family and friends. The more your begin to show, you will start to have strangers come up and put their hands on your belly. I never understood why people felt that was okay. Its natural to want to protect your belly and the baby growing inside. Its funny however, as soon as I started feeling my baby move and kick, I was begging my family to feel my tummy. Congrats and Good Luck!
2006-11-08 02:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by April L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit back and enjoy it- people are going to go out of their way for you,buy you stuff and constantly feed you! When the baby is born it will go on for another 4 months-then you have to re-adjust yourself to being treated normally.I think its done because the baby will put you through the ringer with no sleep! I didnt feel like a real mom till my kid was a year-I was so scared of messing up but just remember to use the people that are willing to help-this is a major change in your life-take it easy on yourself
2006-11-08 02:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated it. Especially when I was only like 2 or 3 months pregnant and people were touching the "baby"- which was actually my gut! For them to touch the "baby" they would have had to go a litle farther south. Anyways after a few months when I could actually fell the baby is when I started to enjoy the attention. Use it to your advantage. " can you get me a drink", or "no, I'm too tired to see you!"- that was nice. Enjoy!
2006-11-08 02:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Amy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes i remember that well. it was uncomfortable. but you will get used to it. they are just trying to get close to the baby. soon all the attention will go to the new bundle once it arrives. then you can stand back and breath. lol. good luck .
2006-11-08 02:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get used to it , its gonna get worse, the fatter you get the more they are going to stare, question, touch. like they are expecting you to pop it out right in front of them. its kinda fun but its a very "pushy" type of thing to go thru. its like you arent just having this baby- they all are !! with the touching - which can get annoying , you just have to remember that its their way of letting the baby know he/she is loved. if you want a bit of peace , try telling them you were off on the delivery date, breathing down you neck as it gets closer. also leave a good book, tin of cookies and box juice under your bathroom sink so you can go in and hide occasionally.
2006-11-08 02:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by kayann01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that happened (and still does) to me. Wait until everybody starts giving you unasked opinions about your belly,weight,sex gender, what to do and not to.........it's very annoying (or at least to me) and the most annoying thing of all is people( family, friends and strangers) thinking they have the right to rub your belly...I hate that..it got to me so bad that I had to say nicely to my friends and family that I don't like my belly being constanly rubbed without my permission. Good luck
2006-11-08 02:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you're so lucky! What I would do to be experiencing that! Enjoy it honey! :) Congrats to you!
2006-11-08 02:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋