I'm 16 years old and I have slept with my mums ex boyfriend who is 46. He has 4 children, two older than me.
Well, mum mum was seeing David* and really liked him. I got on really well with him and we could sit and chat for hours and hours and it was great. When they broke up I was really upset but I got over it, my mum is with someone else now and although i'm not as close to him as I was to david, he's still great.
Anyway, I dropped out of college and was looking for a job, and as David owns his own company, i sent him a quick text asking him if he had any jobs spare, we sent a few texts as I still really liked him and we arranged to meet up for a drink.
I ended up getting drunk and having sex with him. I saw him again 5 days later and stayed over at his house and slept with him again (about 5 times!) and now I cant get him out of my head. he is just so lovely and affectionate towards me and cuddles me and helps me through my problems. I dont feel the age is a problem. Is this OK?
2006-11-08 02:25:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NO---- that is so not okay. He is old enough to be your dad and you are just 16 years old! Sweetheart, he has taken advantage of the fact that you were insecure and had a close relationship with him.
Your looking for a father figure-- not a healthy relationship at all-- besides that , he's breaking the law-- tell someone what's going on....please
2006-11-08 02:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You certainly can't come forward with this relationship- he would likely be arrested for statutory rape, and would be forever labeled a sexual offender and maybe even a predator. I think you should both distance yourself from each other, as his guilt is valid. If he goes to jail you won't see him any time soon, nor will his children, so let the guilt take over, and stop seeing him. You are too young for a sexual relationship with anyone- much less someone who is 3 times your age, AND your mother's former boyfriend.
2016-05-21 21:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering your age gap and the fact that he is a father-figure to you (sorry but l have to be honest) that kind of relationship wont last long. You are attracted to him and feeling the the air of love surrounding you when you're together but that is because your relationship is new. Wait for weeks/months to come and you'll know what l mean. Set your sights on someone else. lt's also very awkward and highly uncomfortable when your mom and those people close to you find out. We have to consider what other people feel as they will get hurt too.
2006-11-08 02:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. he was in a position of authority over you (almost like a step-dad) while dating your mom. This is wong and he can go to jail for this. Stay away from him. You are too young to know the difference between love and a crush. If you still have feelings for him when you're 21, then you can get back with him then.
2006-11-08 02:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? First off, you being 16 - dropping out of college? drinking? I think you have some issues that you need to get profesisonal help with. Dont get me wrong, the age is not the problem...my wife is 14 years younger than me. You are still a kid and you need to concentrate on things kids should...not having adult relationships and playing house/mommy/lover.
2006-11-08 02:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly bad bad bad.
Its not the age gap! Its the fact that this is your mothers XBOYFRIEND. Does this not sink into your head at all? I mean would you like it if your mama spread for your x boyfriend. Chances are she wouldnt because hes your x duhhhh.... Friends dont even do this, dumb asss.. Honestly hunny think before you open your legs damn what a nice way to back stap mom!
Grow up and expeirence men your age first then head for the older guys! Skank
The only reason why hes porking you is because he obviously likes them younger. HEs a pervert and your letting him perv you out! Your to easy and he snift the fish out!
2006-11-08 02:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by princesbubbleyum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind, but you must be with none of the senses that God has given you!!! Please think about this from "outside of the box". This man, who could be your father (and almost was) has liquored you up, taken advantage of you, and now you feel you are in love!!! Give me and the millions of people on the planet a break. I recommend that you take a couple of days, and think, I mean really think about what you have done! The answer will come to you.
2006-11-08 02:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so screwed up so SO many different levels.
This has Jerry Springer written all over it. How can you think sleeping with your mother's ex boyfriend is "normal" or even okay??? You are sixteen? This man should be in jail. Both of you are total losers. GROSS
2006-11-08 02:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that illegal where you live? It is illegal where I live (unlawful sexual conduct with a minor, or, criminal sexual conduct with a minor).
I hope your mother finds out - and puts him in jail. Any man that is 46 that would sleep with a 16 year old is sick in the head - and needs to be put away.
If a 46 year old man slept with my 16 year old daughter - he would be dead and I would be in jail for murder.
2006-11-08 02:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your relationship with your mom to end, then keep seeing him. the age difference is not the issue.
How do you think you mom is going to feel, when she finds out? How would you feel if someone did that to you? I don't think your thinking with your heart. If my daughter did that to me, i would be very very upset. And i would put an end to it.
You don't do that to people who you love,.
There are thousands of guys out there, but only one MOM>
2006-11-08 02:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by mother of 7! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋