Mommies/mommies to be....?

Question

Were/are any of you terrified? I don't mean terrified of having a baby and being a mother, that I am so excited about. I mean terrified about every little thing you do and how it will effect the growing baby inside you, wondering if every twinge or spot that you feel and see is a sign of you losing the baby, etc. I know that I shouldn't worry until I have just cause to, but I am so scared that something will go wrong. Is this normal or am I just over reacting? Thanks!

Answer 1

BIG SMILE !!!! You are TOTALLY normal. some women feel this way more than others. Maybe you have a reason to feel this way that you did not explain to us. It just shows that you are a very concerned mommie-to-be. Try to relax and picture what you want labor and delivery to be, picture holding your little bundle of joy, watch your belly and try to see if you can tell what is a foot or a hand or it's head. It is true this is suppose to be a very joyful time, but it can also be a very worry some time. It will all be over way too soo (although right now you do not feel that way) believe me when you are holding your baby and a few weeks after you will miss it waking you in the night inside you, you will actually miss your belly. If you have a real reason for concerns then talk to your doctor. Try to enjoy this time, it sounds like you just need some reassuring from the right people. Go shopping for you and the baby, that always helped me. Watch happy baby shows on TV. Good luck and happy pregnancy.

Answer 2

Perfectly normal! It's amazing how we go through life and sometimes don't even think about the little things that could potentially cause us harm...then we become pregnant, and all of a sudden it dawns on us that not only do we have another human to protect, but that we actually have to grow it inside our own bodies! It is perfectly normal to worry...especially if you are in the early stages of pregnancy but I assure you that as long as you take care of yourself and if this is meant to be your path in life...you and the baby will be just fine. I miscarried triplets at 15 weeks last December and was devastated. I was sure that I had done something wrong...but I didn't. It just wasn't meant to be. They say that God will only give you what he thinks you can handle. I already have 2 children and 2 step children. Even though we were trying for just one more...God knew that I couldn't handle three more at one time!! I am sure of that because just a few months after the miscarriage, we concieved one very healthy and active baby girl and she is due in January.
I was very worried in the beginning that this one would end up the same way...but I have taken care of myself and made myself calm down and enjoy it!
Try not to worry so much. You need to enjoy your pregnancy and this experience and opportunity that you have been given.
Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 3

Absolutely! Every little ache or pain and I'm worried. But that's probably a good thing. It means you care about your baby and what is happening inside your body. I have tried to keep my worries down to a minimum... I only call my Dr. if the pain is (1) really bad/ unusual or (2) constant and not going away or (3) if I begin bleeding. So other than that, I just sit down and try to make myself comfortable until I feel better. It's a great excuse that if I'm in the middle of something and I don't feel good, I can just lay back and tell people that I need to take a breather!

Don't worry too much about things. There are millions of women who get pregnant every year and millions of healthy babies that are born. the odds are in your favor!

Answer 4

oh its normal. i have two sons ages 2 and 3 and i have another baby on the way. im 9 weeks along. yes every thing that you feel will scare you now. just wait till the baby is born and you have to take it home. that were the really scary stuff start. every sound that the baby makes every move every cold every sneeze burp or anything will scare you. its part of the joys of mother hood. if you are like i was you will check the baby every few mins throught out the night just to make sure its ok. its part of being a mom. something that we have to live with. don't worry read alot and good luck.

Answer 5

Hiya. Yes, i reakon i am quite paranoid about this pregnancy. Last pregnancy i had a great time with no real problems. I am 17 weeks with my second now and i am more worried that something will go wrong. I think pregnancy hormones and your love for your little one is making you more fragile and sensitive to feelings and movements that do not feel normal to you. I have had a great deal of problems with this pregnancy and trying to control stress, but i think worries are completely normal and just shows that you are going to be a fantastic mom! All the best x

Answer 6

Well I am 31/2 months pregnant and I don't necessarily worry about the lost of the baby.

I find myself worrying about how my child will turn out if I think or do certain things while i'm pregnant if what i say about other people will happen to me.

For example if I see a little kid that looks like an alien and in my mind i'm like dang that little kid looks like a alien - - then I get scared that just because I called that kid a alien (IN MY MIND) that my baby will look like one too!

Answer 7

this is sooooo normal!!im 27 weeks pregnant and i remember saying i just wanna get to 25 weeks cause then the baby has a better chance.now im saying i just wanna get to 30 weeks with no problems.if i dont feel her move enough i get worried too.or a strange new pain brings cause for concern in my eyes.its normal because you want the best for your baby and that will be forever.and you would think it would get better after a couple of kids but this is my 3 and i still do it!just take care of yourself and all should be well!

Answer 8

I have 3 kids now 24, 19 & 17; they all went through it. Margot's answer is right on. Give him something to do that he can help with. He can put plastic items in the dishwasher, "help" run the vacuum, getting things from the refrigerator; use your imagination; he can even wash the bottom part of a window. We were painting the inside of the house & they wanted to help. I gave them an old shirt & had him paint the INSIDE of a closet - what's it going to hurt & he sure felt good about "helping". I drew the line at "helping" to mow the lawn until they were 8 or 9 and had a little bit more coordination.

Answer 9

Dear, I am very worried right now. I had to start progesterone shots yesterday. Twice a week until my levels increase. So yes, I am really scared that I might lose this baby. I think it is just normal to be scared and worry.

Answer 10

No, I don't , sure I have worried, but just a couple of times thru the whole pregnancy....I'm a very positive person,so I never think something is wrong...I try to worry about stuff that REALLY seems strange or wierd.