what are the pros and cons of getting married?

Question

from your personal experiences

I have been on here longer than you so direct your commnet towards yourself, you are probably fat and ugly

Answer 1

I've been married for 17 years to a wonderful man. We've had our ups and downs, been through financial feast and famine, illness, the deaths of our parents and grandparents and a dozen other little trials I can't recall.

The biggest "pro" to being married, I think, is that you have someone to share your thoughts and feelings with. You have someone to lean on and support you - and someone who will appreciate the support you provide. After you are married for a while, you develop your own "couples" sense of humor. There will be things only you two find funny. You will take road trips together in the car and play silly car games. You'll lay awake in bed at night and giggle about nothing. You develop a sort of empathic sense about the other person so you can sense their feelings before they even speak sometimes. I appreciate my husband more and more the longer we are married. You just don't get that kind of companionship outside of marriage.

The drawbacks, I suppose are the same mundane drawbacks that come whenever you share physical space with another human. They aren't always neat (but neither are you), sometimes they smell, sometimes they are selfish and intolerant. But who isn't?

Answer 2

In a marriage you get out of it exactly what you put in, so it can be wonderful, or terrible depending on how much you and your spouse work on it (or ignore it).

Over all (big picture because that's the way you have to look at it) my marriage has been wonderful.

Good things: We're a family
We have fun together
We know how to argue about subjects and leave the personal attacks out of it.
We've been able to buy a home and work on other financial goals that I couldn't do alone
Our intimate relationship comes with a deep commitment which makes it more profound and meaningful.
We keep semi regular sleeping hours now, and eat three regular meals a day.
We love each other, and I don't just mean, romantic love, I mean the kind that only comes through service, and sacrifice - it's quieter - but much more amazing.

I could keep going.

hmmm...some cons...well, when we do argue I can't go crying to my mom, or sister, or friends because marriage problems need to be solved privately - at first, that felt kind of lonely.
We've gotten a little chubbier since we eat regularly now.
Some of my own faults that I never knew I had are glaringly apparent now (But that can be good too, because now I have the chance to become better).

I'd recomend it to anyone that understands family, real love, and work - best wishes

Answer 3

As I am currently in the process of divorce this answer may sound very cold but it is not, I still believe in marriage but I have learned some hard learned lessons about reality. I once heard a quote that now I wish I would have heard before my wedding.

A man marries a woman thinking she will never change, a woman marries a man thinking he will.

Just say that a few times and think about what it means, maybe even look for couples who have made it past the first 7 years of Wed-lock. Women are by nature more mature and abt to get past the fun and games of marriage where men prefer to seek the never ending honey moon. some where in the middle is the answer. Good luck.

Answer 4

pros- growing with someone, learning to mature, having a family, being secure in love, making decisions together, taking care of each other, being together, learning things about each other

cons- ??? not getting your way all the time, growing up because who wants to do that.

i think that anything that could be a 'con' are things that force you out of yourself and what you want. if you are in a loving marriage there really aren't any cons. there are things that make you uncomfortable sometimes, but that's part of becoming a better person.

Answer 5

People live longer who are married (it is a scientific fact) the cons, well a lot of immature people marry and think it is going to be one long romance. To make a marriage work takes more work than love.

Answer 6

Legally I'd say that getting married is better. My sister lived with a guy for 5 years and when they broke up he took all the furniture etc. and she couldn't really do anything about it. I think it is better to be married if you are going to have children. Children need to be brought up in a stable home. I love being married. My husband (of 16 years) is my best friend and I can't imagine my life without him.

Answer 7

Pro's: Spending the rest of your life with the person you love, growing old together, having someone to cuddle up to every night, having someone to support you in your dreams and goals while you do the same for them, being able to have someone to talk to and listen to every day, having someone to laugh with, to cry with, making a commitment that will last a lifetime, watching someone that you love grow and change over the years, having a family

Con's: None!!

Answer 8

With over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, you should make sure you are getting married for the right reasons. If all you can think of as a good reason is "I love him", I think you ought to not get married.

Answer 9

Pros- you're married

Cons- You're married

Answer 10

only your heart can answer this question. should you find your heart unable, to answer this question: DO not I repeat Do not get married!

Love don't always make it right!