My wife and I are talking about swinging - maybe just watching/being watched at first, but she is concerned that she is too overweight (about 50 lbs) and nobody would want to see/touch her and she would be too uncomfortable. Anyone dealt with this kind of thing? I have a feeling a lot of swingers are a lot more overweight than this and make out fine.
2006-11-08 02:15:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife will get plenty of action........This I promise you.....So you should be ready for that.....It is just easier for the girls to "hook up"...........Even if you are a fine looking man it will not be as easy for you......Tell her not to worry.........They appreciate all kinds of sizes and shapes........The human body is a beautiful thing!
2006-11-08 02:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a swinger....and was overweight but the attention and the pleasure from the partnerships encouraged me to drop a few lbs. There are a lot of bbw's into swinging and there is alot of men and women willing to enjoy!! One important thing though is to make your wife feel she is part of the "party" too many men focus on the new addition and the wife feels left out and thus ends the swinging!!!
2006-11-08 02:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Searching for answers 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Swingers come in all shapes and sizes and I really dont think you will have any trouble finding compatible matches in the lifestyle. I found a community called BBW Swingers (Big Beautiful Women) on a swingers site called sdc.com the link is below, hope this helps
2006-11-08 06:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by jungle j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way she will get over it is with your reassurance and understanding. Men enjoy women of all shapes and sizes. Sexiness is more about personality and dress style, self confidence then anything else. I would love a chance to see your wife, if you have any pics feel free to share them and I will give you an honest assement. Maybe she should try to wear revealing outfits, showing a little more each time until she gets comfortable with being seen.
2006-11-08 07:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing this lifestyle I can assure you that many other swingers are not perfect. Swinging is not for the lust of another but the excitiment between couples. Looks are not an issue really in swinging. If she is comfortable with unleashing her sexuality in front of other couples it will be a wonderful experience for both of you. I too felt a little insecure at first, but after the clothes were off the experience soon made me think of other things besides myself. Tell her not to worry she will not be judged on her looks but on her sexuality. Have fun, explore, and most of all good luck....
2006-11-08 02:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by crystalshannon516 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You'll do just fine. The fact is that it is not a porn movie. Swingers are not Barbie and Ken. They are the average people in your neighborhood, PTA, grocery store, etc. Most are in their 30's to 40's and have kids and a real life with a real job, etc. Probably just like you. Don't worry about it and just have fun.
2006-11-08 05:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think her weight is a problem, my wife was also concerned about that and that was not a issue,
swingers comes in all different shapes and sizes so I wouldn't worry start slow and see if that is the lifestyle you two want, remember that if one person does not like it to honor their wishes. being watched\watching is a good way to see if that is what you are into, we like being watched and enjoy watching others so one just needs to go slow and honor one others wishes as in if they don't like it just stop
2006-11-08 02:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by badboy1962 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well ofcourse, how could a normal human being swing unless he/she is a loser lunethic, pathetic .....I really don't understand how you feel comfortable seeing the person you loved fcuked by someone else?
Do you really have the noraml humna brains?
Like my friend above said there is no attractive swinger, and if they are they have a brain size of a peas. you know peas ....
2006-11-11 08:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her size won't slow too many guys down. [a] No one is perfect - just look around, and [b] it seems like people who swing are in it for the experience, not as a beauty contest, but for tasting other fruit - even if it is a bit more plump.
She shouldn't worry.
2006-11-08 02:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then you'll really be in the typical of swingers... most you see advertising about swinging are over weight and on the chubby side... both male and female...
2006-11-08 02:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by deakjone 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't understand the swinging thing at all . Men like full-figured women and it doesn't sound like she is that big .If you are attracted to her then another guy will be too . Why not drop it for awhile .
2006-11-08 02:26:13 · answer #11 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋