I'm in Romania right now, my mother is in the states, she just told me an hour ago shes pregnant!!! I am 18 yrs old!! she is 39, omg.... whoa, and its due July 4th
umm.. anyways .. she is really nervous right now about it... she is going to have it though... what are some ways I can make her feel better and support her?
2006-11-08 02:15:06 · 22 answers · asked by Pook 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
and no it wasn't planned....
2006-11-08 02:17:18 · update #1
Just be excited with her. Remind her of how young she is. She's only 39. Madonna is 48 and has three very young children. The oldest woman to give birth was near 60, and she's raising those children.
39 is nothing. Especially with all the medical advances. She'll be fine, and so will those babies.
Just be excited with her. If it were me, and it were my mother, I would reassure her that she could name me as gaurdian in her will. Because she knows she raised me how I ought to have been raised, and would do the same with children in my care. But thats just how I'd personally handle it.
Iam 23 and my mom is 42, she thought she was pregnant last year. So we went through all this then...lol.
2006-11-08 02:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's ok. My mom had my little brother at 44. She's now 46, and my brother is 2. In fact, my younger sister and my mom were pregnant at the same time, and they were born a month apart. That was crazy! It was like Father of the Bride 2 when both of them were pregnant. Your mom will be fine. Plenty of women do it every day. This will change her life drastically as she will not be retiring in style. She will be worrying about high school stuff when she should be relaxing and vacationing. As long as she's ok with giving those things up, she will be good. Bringing another life into this world is ALWAYS a blessing, no matter when or how old you are when it comes. Congrats on having a future sibling!
2006-11-08 03:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her and let her know that you supprt her. Women are having children at later ages these days and doing just fine. She will have a lot of worries though. Because she is of an advanced maternal age, she will have to undergo a lot of testing etc. and there is a chance that this could be a difficult pregnancy. Does she have support at home? Just be there for her and try and understand what she is going through. Besides, some women are having babies at 40 and 45....
Please send her my well wishes and Good luck!
2006-11-08 02:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you other than just be there for her. Call her, talk to her about everyday stuff, support her. You know what I mean. You LUCKY person--you're in Romania now? I'm 100% Romanian, and I would love to visit there. (I was born here in America, and have not had the chance to go there--I still have family there. There may be a possibility of me going this spring, after Easter. Who know's about that.) Anyways, good luck with everything!
2006-11-08 02:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jammin' On The One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge her! She is probably worried about what people will think about it. She isn't that old yet!!! I have a friend who has a 22 year old and a 3 year old and they are doing just fine. They didn't plan it either. Make her feel like you are exited about being a big sister. Send her a gift and an I love you card- it'll make her smile. If she knows she has support she'll be great.
2006-11-08 02:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same thing happen to me only me and mom were here in the good old usa. she was 37 i was 18. tell her what a good job she has done with you and tell her that it is a blessing that after all this time she is now getting another cutie pie tell her you sibling has a purpose and remind her of how much joy the little bundle will bring. when my sis was born everyone came together its amazing relatives that formerly didn't speak now speak because they all wanto to be around my sister and give her a positive environment. you will be amazed.
2006-11-08 03:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Love United 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there. Help her out. Are you going back to the states? If so, ask what you can do to help her out.
Oh, yeah, tell her you love her and support whatever decision she has made. When it comes to being a mom, hearing your kid(no matter what the age is) always makes things better.
2006-11-08 02:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh thats soo sweet! me and my mom are pregnant at the same time... im 16 and shes 41, we are both due this month.
but some things you can do for her are take her to get a pregnant massage, and to get pedicure... an other thing.. help her out with the babys room and go shopping with her to find all the good baby stuff.
throw her a baby shower.
take her to the movies and out to eat like once a month.
2006-11-08 02:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! You have a new brother or sister! Make sure you have the right attitude towards them even before they are born. Congratulate your Mom and ask her what she needs. Throw her a baby shower! I'm 22 and I have a 7 year old brother. He's fabulous.
2006-11-08 02:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Opinion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
part of her nervousness is probally fear about how you take the news, part also is all the crap "professionals " thru the ages have spread about "dangers of older moms giving birth" i was 42 when my last was born. my other "youngest" was 16 at the time. my oldest was pregnant with my 3rd granbaby. so i can imagine how she feels. tell her to stop worrying and start enjoying !! you sound as tho you will make a great older sister !!! send mom my hugs and prayers.
2006-11-08 02:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by kayann01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋