My fiancee told me he received oral sex from a woman he knew a lonf time ago. He said it would have went further but the girl told him she does not have sex without condoms.It happened THursday.I love him alot and we were supposed to be moving in with each other at the end of the year.I do not know if i can trust him. To make matters worse the woman might have given him an std-so i insisting on both of us going to the clinic to get tested. He told me it was a huge mistake and it willnever happen again, but i am afraid of getting my heart broken yet again.We have been together for over 2years and i never suspected anything until recently & my suspicions were right. How am i supposed to be intimate with him again.Till this day ,i can barely look him in the face without crying.Can anyone male or female please send me your comments if u have gone through this before & how did u go back to trusting that person.( Serious comments only no dum *** replies)
2006-11-08 02:11:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hard times! Honestly if hes your fiancee, he shouldnt of let it happen. The fact that you cant look him without cracking into tears should be your answer. Take some time apart face the facts and see where you want to be in a couple of months from now. Chances are this wont be his last time. And if use do work on it make sure that u are over his infadility before trying to improve or move forward with your relationship!
I would just pack it up! In other words if there was a condom he would of had sex. It doesnt say much for him at all to actually say this to you. Its a hard long road if you stay together and chances are many heart breaks because of his cock thinking for his brain!
2006-11-08 02:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by princesbubbleyum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 12:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust this person. I would question how much he values your love or any promises he makes. For two years he was misleading you. You might try to forgive him but you will never forget. He's already shown you what he is capable of doing. Look how he has been acting. Moving in together would be a big mistake for you.You can never be close to someone with so many nagging doubts. The only "dumb reply" would be if you stayed hooked up with him. Be well rid of him and be thankful you didn't catch anything from him.
2006-11-08 03:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Especially because he told you it didn't go further because there was no condom, if there was a condom he would have done it. Marriage will mean nothing to him, it will not be a reason for him to not cheat on you. Please dump him now. You will never trust him again and it will be so hard on you to pretend like you trust him. What will you do the next time he goes out with his friends? You will wonder if he's really with his friends or with some girl he used to know. It will make you miserable. Be strong and leave.
2006-11-08 02:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So basically he would have had unprotected sex with her if she hadn't put her foot down - sounds like a winner to me. Seriously, don't do this to yourself. If you stay with a guy like that you are bound to go through some really bad shi* in the future. I wouldn't be surprised if he's cheated before this and you just never found out. Please, don't take him back. I know it is hard, but the amount of pain you'll suffer from dumping him now will pale in comparison to the amount of pain you'll suffer if you stay with him and try and make it work.
2006-11-08 02:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry first off... This happens alot. I would recommend just leaving him. Even if he doesn't ever cheat on you again... you will always have that question"is he cheating on me again" in the back of yor head and this will ruin the relationship.. TRUST ME I KNOW... so you would rather just leave and start a new relationship than be in a bad one until it gets worse... MORF
2006-11-08 02:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by morfusaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. It will probably happen again. Unfortunately, I am speaking from experience...
2006-11-08 02:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Brad T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋