I've been married to my husband for 2 years and we have a son together. He no longer wants to be married. This happened last year and I told him to leave. We got back together and the same thing is happening again. I'm financially dependent on him and don't know how to leave with my son.
2006-11-08 02:01:39 · 13 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will be hard in the beginning but you will make it work. He will have to pay support, that will help, and you can get a job and a small apartment. You can't stay in the relationship because of finances, it won't work. Good luck.
2006-11-08 02:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is hard on you and your son and also you husband believe it or not. I too have been through this but I am a single dad and this is a very good thing. Okay with you I have always said it doesn't pay to back up but if you are married then it is worth the try. Have you tried any counseling if you have then it is time to move on. You get a lawyer and he or she will lay it out for you and it is going to be hard and he as you husband will be very angry with you and this will help you to move on. do not let him get you down and stay in touch with your family and friends but do not let your friends miss lead you and do not be mean to him keep it very fair because you want your son to look at you like a great women like a Mom. How to move on you live one day at a time and before you know it there you are looking back and it will feel like a dream I hope. Good luck.
2006-11-08 10:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU TAKE MY ADVICE I THINK YOU WILL BE ABLE TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE. THE KEY WORDS ARE FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT. THAT YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT. CAN YOUR MOM KEEP THE BABY OR CAN YOU FIND A SERVICE THAT WILL PAY FOR DAY CARE. THERE, YOU NEED TO FIND ONE AND TELL THEM YOU NEED HELP SO YOU CAN GET A JOB. YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT DO YOU? WELL, IF YOU WANT TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE YOU NEED TO GET OUT THE HOUSE. YOU NEED TO GET A JOB EVEN IF YOU ARE MAKING 90 DOLLARS A WEEK OR TWO WEEKS. HE WOULD COME AROUND WHEN HE SEE YOU ARE NOT SITTING THERE WAITING ON HIM. HE CAN ONLY TREAT YOU LIKE THAT BECAUSE YOU ARE AT THIS TIME A SECOND CLASS CITIZEN. HE WILL BE SO WORRIED THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO GET YOURSELF TOGETHER TO LEAVE HIM FOR GOOD. HE WILL START STAYING HOME TRYING TO KEEP UP WITH YOU BUT YOU MUST GET A JOB THIS WAY HE WILL RESPECT YOU AND THINGS WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER. IF ANYONE TELLS YOU IT WON'T WORK , THEY DON'T WANT TO SEE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK. BECAUSE IF HE IS OUT THERE, THE PERSON HE IS MESSING WITH SHE HAS A JOB. GET A JOB EVEN IF IT IS A FAST FOOD PLACE A STORE GET A JOB AND EVERY THING WILL CHANGE. E-MAIL ME AND LET ME KNOW BECAUSE I KNOW I AM CORRECT.WRITE MY E-MAIL DOWN OKAY (bbfwilliams@yahoo.com)
2006-11-08 10:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many shelters that are available to women who are stuck in abusive relationships (not saying yours is). Also, do you have family and friends you can call upon?
The bad thing about state assistance is they normally will not help you unless you have already not moved out, not prep you for the time you may move out. So women who are dependent on their spouse cannot get out because they won't do well the first week or so on their own while waiting for assistance.
Can you talk to him and let him know the situation is not getting better and have him move and ask him for some assistance until you can get on your feet?
Miss Cris
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2006-11-08 10:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have tried everything possible to make things work out then its obviously isnt gonna work so go get yourself a job and start saving up money....tak to one of your family mambers or a close friend and ask them if you can stay there till you get on your feet.And ask them for some pointers too.Now this isnt going to happen over night.There is steps to this process.And remeber your son is top priority and you got to put him first then think about what you want to do.then once you have everything straight go out with some friends and maybe you will find prince charming.
2006-11-08 10:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry to hear about that! It always seems that when we give people another chance, they always hurt us again. The same thing happened to me with my ex-boyfriend recently. You should start putting money away in an account, see if you can get help from family or friends and try to be more independent.
2006-11-08 10:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first. get a job and your own place. then you leave and get a divorce. I know that it is easier said than done but truth be told, he does not want to be in the marriage. So girl i know that you are depending on him but take it one step at a time and you will find that independent women n you.
Best of luck to you!
2006-11-08 10:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your self a job or something so that you become finacialy stable on your own or just become financialy stable then tell him to get the hell out of ur life hes obviosuly a waster hes done this 2 times you say?? u desrve better!! kick him into tough & sort your self out then allow him to have visitation rights to ur boy the sooner you doo this the sooner he realises that hes been wasting your time & you arent going to put up with it & that you will either take him back again if he proves he can change (to your standards) if not then divorce him & move on.
2006-11-08 10:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by party69_27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk and if he wants to leave you should let him go .Do you have any interest in getting a job or maybe babysitting for kids in the neighborhood. He can't just leave you and his kid with no income . Hopefully this will pass and he will come to his senses .
2006-11-08 10:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him 2 get out of ur house & go 2 court 4 child support.
2006-11-08 10:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by lakersfan_4life1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋