marriage trouble looming?

Question

caught my wife making love to a neighbour on our couch, they did not see me, should i tell her or just carry on , scared to lose her and my 3 year old boy

Answer 1

You need to do what's best for you and your son. Your wife doesn't care about her marriage and she won't stop having sex with the neighbor. Confront her and see if she wants to save the marriage or get out. If she wants to get out, then move forward with the divorce as quickly as possible.

Answer 2

Where was the three year old child while this was going on?

I hate to break it to you, but if she is screwing your neighbor on YOUR couch, you've already lost her!!!!! She not only is having an affair, but she totally disrespected everything you had with her by doing it your home. Do you honestly believe you will ever get that image out of your head? Your marriage is doomed to fail, don't wait until your child is old enough to be horribly scarred by a divorce. He will adjust to the change, and you can still be a wonderful loving father! You may even be able to get custody, depending on the state you live in, because of her adultery. Especially if she was subjecting your son to the possibility of witnessing it! Next time, take pictures, present them to her, and to the court. There will be no need for words at that point!

Sorry for what you are going through! Good luck to you!

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Answer 4

Man, I am so sorry! If it were me I couldn't have not done anything about it. No telling how long its been going on! If I were you I would go and kick this man's *** and then I would deal with her next! Be strong! Your a man so start acting like one! I would have all her **** ready in bags and I would take them next door and put that **** on his door step! Get a lawyer soon that way you'll be able to see your son. If you wanna go another way you can bring a girl home and have sex on the couch and let her catch you in the act and then when she confronts you then you can ask her " how the hell does it feel!" Well I hope things work out for you good luck!

Answer 5

its tough to actual see some you love and trust betray you.

you have been a brave man to keep it all in. but there is need for you to take some action.

you need to decide if you can forget the issue as if it never happen and thus ignore for the rest of your life that it may still be happening. though this may sound appealing, it is one you need to carefully think through.

you also need to ascertain if she would change when confronted with the act. you've known her for a whiel, so you would know how she would take to being caught cheating.

at the bottom of all this, you have a marriage that may be worth saving, despite what people may say or think. you alone know the depth to which you hold you marriage, so you alone can decide if it is worth rescuing.

infedility is a symptom of a much deeper problem, its not the problem.

You can ask God to help, He usually knows what is best.

Answer 6

Confront her with the truth and see what she has to say on the matter. What a terrible thing to witness. There is nothing for you to gain by silence, your resentment will gather until it forms into a hatred. None of this is any good for your child. It may be wise for yout to seek out some legal help now.

Whatever else happens, please try to keep your temper and keep your child's welfare at the foremost of your thoughts. Events such as these can colour a child's life forever and I'm certain you would not wish that upon your own offspring.

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Answer 7

If you don't say anything it will continue. Do you want your 3 year old boy around that? of course not. If you keep this quiet it will eat away at you, believe me holding something in like that will only cause problems. I know you love her but you DO NOT deserve to be deceived like this. Take your son to your moms or her moms someone you trust tell them you need talk about something and you don't want your 3 year old to hear it, (being at such a young age does not mean they don't feel something is wrong) and go somewhere private and talk to her and let her know you know what is going on, tell her she means everything to you, and you are so hurt by this, and you don't want to lose her, and you think you two should seek counseling (believe me it helps) to work on this problem, at least do it for your son. If she truly loves you and your son she will go. It is so hard to believe that someone you love that you think loves you could do this. Her reasons for cheating could go much deeper that the act of cheating. I was sorta in this situation about 6 years ago. My hubby, he didn't cheat (physically) but there was a computer and phone sex involved we almost got a divorced over it, but we got help and our marriage couldn't be better. Good Luck to you and your son.

Answer 8

Do not make a big thing out of it......think of the good times you had...she was probably just learning some new tricks to spice things up a bit....... and it is not like it was in the Marital Bed. .. Be honest with yourself you are unlikely to find another...invest in a douche bag and some mothwash as the taste and smell of it stale is disgusting and you will never know when she last took a deposit.....also get yourself and your son sti tested regularly. God Bless You and keep you in the arms of Baby Jesus. You are in all our Prayers and like your wife's legs, the Kingdom of Heaven is always Open

Answer 9

Aye, for sure if she's sleeping with someone else she sure isn't committed to you. You have to confront her and find out why, see if you can work it out, etc. It's awful the thought of cheating, but I do believe everyone is allowed one chance. I've never knowlingly been cheated on, nor have I done it, so maybe I'd feel different otherwise. Anyway, get it in the open and don't be afraid to leave if it's a dead relationship - and that's your choice to make, not hers.

Answer 10

they want to hurt you behind your back so hurt the neighbor behind his back mess up his car ,house take his dog to the pound i mean do all this without saying your doing this .when you and the wife talk about all the troubles the guy is having say weird how that all started after i say you two on the couch .or just have some respect for yourself and kick her out why in the world would you want her is this the kind of person you want to be your wife .she is not acting like a wife she should not be treated like won .