Ever since I was a teenager, I have been aware of a lack of feeling about things, both physically and emotionally in everyday life. Things rarely seem to affect me and I seem to be detached from the people around me. It isn't apparent to them, but I have started to notice it more and more. Even deaths of family members or friends do not seem to spark the reaction it does in others. I feel like most of my life I have "put on" the appropriate reactions to things because that's what's socially acceptable. I haven't suffered any sort of childhood trauma to cause this numbness, it's just the way I seem to always have been. It causes problems where relationships are concerned, because I can't ever seem to feel "that way" about anybody, sexually or emotionally. I don't even have the natural inclination for a relationship with a boy or girl. At school I never understood why everyone was so obsessed with boys and sex. It has never interested me.Am I the only one who is like this?
2006-11-08 01:36:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think deep down you do care. and you do have emotions and feelings about things, everybody does... but shutting yourself off from it is a coping mechanism that you have found effective. next time you feel annoyed, figure out what it is that's irritating you. next time you're uncomfortable, or, whatever unpleasant feelings it is that you have, figure out what's behind them. if you went through trauma as a child, you would have learned from a young age to shut yourself off, and protect your feelings so as not to get hurt again in the future. really, it may seem to bring relief and you mightn't feel hurt at the time, but really, those feelings are still there, bottling up, and when the time comes that you have to face yourself and deal with everything, it'll be very hard. you should take the steps necessary to get on the road to recovery ASAP. go to counselling, do what needs to be done, just don't keep living the way you are now :( i'm sure it isn't any fun
2006-11-08 01:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by pattie-cake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel quite the same way. People tell me that I'm emotionless and cold sometimes. When family members passed I didn't feel much pain, other than sympathy for those grieving. I have been told by friends to talk to a shrink about depression, but $$ and my lack of trust in doctors leaves me sitting here.
I find that I feel better after writing about things that bother me. I think that we need an outlet to get ourselves going, so to speak.
I 'put on' a happy face every time I walk out of my house. (Which I try not to do too often... yes I know I'm a hermit... and addicted to the internet) Therein lies another little bit. I feel quite strongly about this too... the Internet.. in all its helpful glory and good intentions.. has with the advent of internet calls, blogs, social groups, IM's, etc - negated the need for human interpersonal interaction. Since we want to spend our time online, we forsake our people skills, and this leads to depression as well.
2006-11-10 02:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by brmwk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be depressed. Lack of sexual desire is one of the symtoms, feeling numb is another. Try therapy. Forcing emotional reactions will not help. I think lots of people feel numb when someone dies. People will be able to tell your reaction is forced and won't know how you really feel. Which is numb. Your therapist or doctor may be able to diagnose depression and help you pull yourself out of it.
2006-11-08 03:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything has a reason something must have cozed that but you ain't sure what it is so seek for some help dear bcoz come the day that u break u will be in trouble big time
2006-11-08 03:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by funkyspice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to a doctor about the way you feel they will be able to suggest why you might feel like this and ways to deal with it. Don't worry you are normal, you are normal for you.
2006-11-08 01:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by chris_morganuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not alone. I go thew periods like this where one minute i am into life and others i just don't care. Death also dosn't bother me. some times i wish i was in a relationshoip and others i don't care if i ever get into one. it too hadr for me to exsplain but yes i can relate to you. your not alone.
2006-11-08 02:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a name for this condition, but I can't think of it. You need to talk to a psychiatrist not a regular dr or a therapist.
2006-11-08 05:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to seek professional help. It disturbs you otherwise you wouldn't ask
2006-11-08 02:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Starlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell a psychologist about this they can help you.
2006-11-08 02:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋