Well i like this guy...but everyone is telling me not to like him...and i mean just this morning one of my friends ran up to me...and was like DO U LIKE HIM!! and started yelling at me and i was like da-amn do u like him and she was like no no no...and i was like right...but i really dont kno what to do...??? should i just keep on likley him and maybe date him...or should i back off cause they are telling me he is i bad person...but i dont htink he is and i have known him for a long time
2006-11-08 01:21:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Have your friends tell you exactly what they think is wrong with him and be careful.
2006-11-08 01:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, your friends and family will tell you something's not right about a potential date before you see the problem yourself. You would think that you'd notice anything wrong first, since you like him and you're closer to him, but no. BECAUSE they don't like him, they'll be able to tell if something about that guy is bad. Meanwhile, you're stuck in love and don't notice any flaws, no matter how obvious they might be.
Get your friends to calm down and tell you exactly what they don't like about the guy. If they say something and you're making up excuses for him, that's a big red flag. That means that you should really think this through. Do a risk assessment, and don't assume that everything will be "all right."
Following your heart comes when you know what your heart really is. Are you following your heart or your hormones?
Another test. Unless your parents or usual guardians don't care about you at all (If they nag you about how you're doing in school or handling your life, they definitely care, okay?), they'll have something to say about it. Talk to an older female who's close to you about this. Not your friends. They may mean well, but they aren't much older than you. How can you expect them to be much wiser? If this older woman knows the guy you're talking about, that'll make her assessment that much more accurate. If she reacts in the same way as your friends did, then you might want to take the hint and not date this guy.
2006-11-08 04:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by dragon8rider2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be some reason why people are saying that he is a bad person. Maybe he is purposely not letting you see the side of him that everyone else is seeing. You should find out abit more about him and why these people are saying these things about him.
I am assuming that you are in your early teens.....not really of dating age....so I would say that you need to just remain friends with him for awhile and see if you can learn more about him.
2006-11-08 13:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know sometimes you cant believe everything that you hear. meaning if you feel that this man is the right one for you then maybe you should go ahead and make a move. you can only know that he is a and guy if you go for it. If you realize that he is not something you are looking for then that's when you cut it off with him. you will only know for sure if you make a move.
2006-11-08 05:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by acoats2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what r u gonna let ur friends tell u who to like?i liked this guy (my now bf) and my friends told me exactly what your friends r telling you.They didn't like it cause he hung out the street,and they heard this and they heard that but who cares.He's always been there for me and i don't care what they think.Do what you wanna do.
2006-11-08 11:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you to do, not your friends, maybe their just jealous. Maybe they think you'll stop hanging wit them. make sure they know you love them(not like that). Well, hopefully you find the answer to your problem. I wish you lots of luck.
2006-11-08 01:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what is right for you, if you wanna se this guy then do it, but from previous experience i can tell you that when friends have warned you off a guy theres probably a good reason why ....
think carefully
2006-11-08 02:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by bradderswifey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should follow your heart. if you don't date him or at least give it a shot then you will always wander what could have been . and if you do date and it does not work out at least you would have given it your all. good luck
2006-11-08 01:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There telling you that cause they like him,trust me I have been through it all before
2006-11-08 01:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_chiffonsweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like who ever you want it is up to the guy to decide who he wants to date
2006-11-08 01:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋