im girt to get back wth my ex girl but she is insecure, i think that she is afraid of getting hurt again or i might to some thing stupid and it dont work out should i tell her that im a change person and i pormise not to hurt her just to give her some hold on to make her feel confident in me?
2006-11-08 01:19:36 · 14 answers · asked by yard kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actions speak louder than words... she is watching u.. the real question is; are u 4 real? have u really changed? do u love her too much to hurt her? why do u want her back? are u content with her only? this is a starting point. u gatta be honest to yoself b4 u are honest to another person
2006-11-08 01:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action not words. Relationships are based on mutual trust and understanding and this can be build upon by your actions. You may reassure her but unless you do something to back it up it is empty promises. Do not make promises that you are not sure of as it may hurt the person even more. Communicate more and learn for your past mistakes.
2006-11-08 01:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by FJY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great you are getting back together.The thing to do is to build the trust.If she is insecure,then this will be difficult.You need to work extra hard to remove her insecurities in order for her to have total trust in you.One doubt is all it takes to lose it....I don't what you did,so I really can't give you a definitive answer.You cannot rebuild a relation,,you have to start from scratch and take it from there. Good luck
2006-11-08 02:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Frank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take her time to gain back her trust. In the meantime be patient. Reassure her and make her feel secure in the relationship. In time trust will be a part of your relationship again. Good luck.
2006-11-08 01:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position on the opposite end. I don't believe my husband when he says things will be different. I will tell you what I told him, give it time and be patient. Stay constant to what you are assuring me of and perhaps things will work out.
2006-11-08 01:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well-liked final words.."I promice i will in no way harm you returned..i admire you..i do no longer understand what have been given into me!" expensive one, you ought to in no way ought to have your guard up with the only you easily love, with the aid of fact if it have been an quite genuine love, you're boyfriend could in no way think of of wounding you! attempt to be your very terrific pal, and not permit anyone harm or harm you via any skill.The cycle in no way stops, as much as we have confidence it particularly is going to. You in no way see them beating on yet another guy!! Oh so difficult they make you think they are.they attempt to deliver you right down to their point, making you sense valueless and undesirable!! it particularly is no longer you why he mistreats you! If issues are not going his way, he's going to take it out on you! You desearve the terrific! This subject stated as existence must be a happy adventure! we are all so blessed. Why ought to anyone harm each and every physique, particularly those closest to us? do no longer waste some time with somebody whom mistreats you! good success to you! i know it rather hurts to be mistreated, in any way!
2016-10-03 10:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to really convince her, when people have trust in someone and that person hurt them it take a while for that person to trust you again. So give her some time.
2006-11-08 01:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife wanted me to promise never to hurt her after her first husband put her through a lot of hell.
I promised.
She put me through a lot of hell and I later learned she put her first husband through a lot of hell too.
Now she's putting her third husband through a lot of hell.
You can promise, chances are she's not as daft as my ex... But don't make a promise you can follow through with if you feel all she's doing is seeking security from something she'll never be secure with within herself.
2006-11-08 01:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not too sure about what your trying to say...but taking a stab at it anyway. If you messed up I think you need to suck it up and move on. Even if you have changed! If she decides to take you back allow her to come back on her own time.
peace!
2006-11-08 01:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by passionfruit2571 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that my friend is exactly what you should do if you mean to do good by her this time .Tell her you know you made mistakes and you hurt her before but you are aware of who were then and you don't want to be that person anymore, tell her you know you have to earn her trust but that she Will see that you are worthy of it, let her know that you are not perfect but have no intentions to do her wrong.
2006-11-08 01:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by gd2bhpy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋