my sis feels inferior as she is not fair in colour n feels lots as friends tease her 4 the same.how to tackle.

Question

she si from south india with average colur in a north indian school where all r fairer then here.. so thet tease her n do not mingle with her.. she already felt inferior n now after coming to this school this has greately depressed her.. what could be done tackle this problem.. please help me to resolve her prob..

she si from south india with average colur in a north indian school where all r fairer then here.. so thet tease her n do not mingle with her.. she already felt inferior n now after coming to this school this has greately depressed her.. what could be done tackle this problem.. please help me to resolve her prob..

-- thanx for all ur responces.. i showed this to my sis n what she says.. i am bold n don't thiink that being black is inferior..even if i am bold to how much extent i can hear the teasing of all around me.. all girls in my class r avoiding me n mocking at me...i am always lonly in my class.. n started crying.. k let it be.. thanx 4 ur advices.. these had made my sis more bold..

Answer 1

if people tease her for this they are stupid...she sounds dark and lovely to me......does she have a boyfriend? is she willing to engage in a lesbian affair? does she go for long distance relationships? and most importantly is she of legal age?

Answer 2

First thing - No one can insult you unless you allow them to. Ask her not feel insulted. On the contrary try and show them as if she's taking it as a joke. If you can laugh at yourself, nobody else will be able to laugh at you.
Secondly, she must be having something that's very exclusive to her. We all have some unique quality. You as a family member should try and bring up that hidden talent within your sis. Once her mates at the school see that she too has something special, they will try and make friends with her.
And last but not the least, starting immediately counsel her that few of the most successful women in glamor world have dark skins. Our very own Kajol, Smita Patil, Sameera Reddy etc. And not to forget super model Naomi Campbell. So beauty is not in the skin color it's more about the way you carry yourself. Be active, smart, dress up nicely and try and be graceful.
I know it's easier said than done but that's the way it has to be. All the best.

Answer 3

Its really sad to know that even in the twentieth century ppl couldnt shake off these discriminatory factors...frnds r like gems that comes once in life .U loose a frnd u lose the gem forever if ur sis gets hurt that will leave a black scar on her heart forever against the person that hurt her....Just tell ur sis to overlook all odds and concentrate on studies...Life is a cycle u have bad n good times but all's temporary..maybe its time for her struggle.........

Answer 4

plenty extra fish contained in the sea. Human partiality is so diverse that there'll in a good number of cases be someone who thinks you're appealing no matter if you do not imagine so your self. a number of the most beautiful people may have boring personalities because being prominent has made them too lazy to have interaction with others. honestly no-one could experience inferior because they could not be as solid-searching as somebody else. i'm confident you may imagine of people that're by no potential short of company or solid friends or romantic companions even although they don't look extremely appealing? they have something a lot extra enduring than looks - an ability to entice people to them by the rigidity of their personality. they're in a good number of cases the individuals who make an attempt of their relationships with those round them - make their friends, companions and kinfolk experience cared for. looks may get you the numerous different of your desires yet may not save her or him.

Answer 5

hi
this is ria
i think looks does not matter in todays world
it the personality and ur good nature who attracts people to u
who say people who r or dark complexion does not have personality. it is she who has u face everyone with courage
show them that u r not less then anyone.who says people who r far have a good personality or they r good by naturefor example
see ashwarya rai she is beautiful but then also she became miss world. and where as sushmita sen she is dark but she has good personality and good nature because of which she became miss universe . so dont woryy such things come in ur life dont take them to ur heart
be brave and i know u will become famous one day
bye
take care
i hope u will like my suggestion
rest is up to u?

Answer 6

She can't change her color, but she can change how she feels about this. One of the most beautiful women on this planet is Iman. Google her. She's amazingly beautiful and she's darker than your sister, I'm sure. She's from Ethiopia. Tell your sister to look a the runway models. Many of the most beautiful ones are the darkest. Alek Wek is another amazingly beautiful dark woman. Pale women are boring. They don't look beautiful in bright colors. They don't have nice skin tones. Spots, scratches and scars show up more on them than on darker skin tones. Trust me, I know. I'm one of the light ones. If your sister is beautiful, then tell her. It will help.

Answer 7

tell her that her dark complexion is normal than those fairer ones.see the situation goes as this that the melanin gland are responsible for our colours and people who r fair have less amount of melanin secreted from the melanin glands.so let her complex shed down by telling that that having a dark complexion is normal and the fair people r abnormal at this matter.

Answer 8

paste posters of Bipasha Basu, Neomi Campbell, and as many dusky beauties that you can find in her room. then she surely will understand that dark can be beautifull too.(this was'nt a joke)
also advice her to follow a strict skin care routine that involve, regular clensing (washing her face with a suitable face wash thrice a day, and in case her skin is oily, also with plain water as frequently as possible), moisturising (use skin specific creams/lotions) and scrubing(once a week. can use besan haldi mix or can also buy apricot scrub for the market)

a hygenic living (daily bath) and a balnced diet in addition to above will in a short time will get her a healthy, glowing skin, with an even tone(i.e blemish free) with is more desierable that fair skin full of pimples!

also reming her of one negetive point of fair skin, scars, pimples etc are easily visible on a fair complection as compared to a dark one!

Answer 9

Try to build up her confidence. Make her understand she has a unique color, being different is standing out as unique. People who cant accept you for who you are, are not worth making friends with. Is she in a boarding school? If not whenever she comes home from school find friends she can mix with who would accept her for who she is, and just be there for her too.

Answer 10

tell your sis that beauty is not a permanent trait...... encourage her by giving her the ugly duckling story's example..... and tell her that there is a place specially made for her somewhere, where she'll be the pretiest of all !!!! look at oprah winfrey and other dark complexioned people,who are making the world go round.n are pretty well accepted!!! so k sera sera......

Answer 11

There is nothing special in colour. The guys who r teasing her may only have the colour but no brains. Why should she give up she must love herself. Build up her confidence.