What does a woman really want from her man when she is pregnant. I don't generally consider myself insensitive but it seems like every time I figure out what will make her feel safe and secure she changes the rules on me. Is this really hormones or is she checking to see how far I will go or is she just mean?
2006-11-08 00:47:53 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Scream at her? lol. what would that do? I'd like to keep her actually, and I don't see that as helping. but ty for the response.
2006-11-08 00:53:09 · update #1
It's probably hormones (but don't scream that at her if you're in a fight). Just be supportive and try not to let her mood swings get to you. Even if she seems like she doesn't appreciate you, she does and she'll love you for being sweet. Try to listen to what she says, even when it doesn't make sense. Be extra nice, bring her flowers or a loving card for no reason -- women ALWAYS love that.
Just the fact that you're trying means alot. Every woman is different, but this will pass sooner or later.
2006-11-08 00:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well dear you are in for a long haul.. hope you have alot of patience. All women are very moody during pregnancy.. there bodys are changing drastically and yes hormones are taking over.. Just don't take a whole lot seriously if she is sounding to be rude..the best part is to come.
Like when you get to delivery. she will most likely call you every name in the book and blame you for every bit of her pain.. may even tell you she hates you.. don't worry all this will also pass.
And then you will get to the post partum blues and she will most likely sit around and cry alot.. there is also nothing you can do about this either.. just be there for her. the good part of this time is that you will have your beautiful little bundle to make up for all the stress and horrible behavior that she has put you through.. given time to the blues will also pass. and don't forget some women don't get it.. As for the question of what most women want from there husband while being pregnant. Just be there and help out when ever you can.. There are no rules when pregnant so prepare for changing of the mind..
women are not mean on purpose when pregnant just very unpredictable.
Good luck and congrats on your up coming baby.
2006-11-08 01:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot is hormones, but it can be helped. Reassure her, about everything, pretty regularly too. If she starts ranting, just give her a hug and tell her that you love her and hold her till she smile and then a little bit longer. Do not dismiss her feelings or thoughts, that will lead to trouble. Alot of what is going on with her she probably doesn't even understand herself. And she is more than likely getting frustrated at everything from the way her body feels, to not knowing her own emotions right now. Pregnancy is hard mentally, emotionally and physically. Don't take it too personal. Just love her, in all her craziness right now, and be there for her, physically, mentally and emotionally. You know her, if there is stuff in her past that may mess with her, it will during this time. Women are not as hard as men think. Talk to her, get to know her on an emotional level, then you will be able to understand when something triggers her to go crazy, and just that understanding will mean the world to her. Of course all women are different. You will know if you are being treated like a doormat. Best wishes to the both of you, and congrats on the new baby.
2006-11-08 02:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by adrein_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost 8 months pregnant. She wants you to be supportive and caring. Spoil her. Rub her back, her feet--do things for her. Make her feel special during this time. Even if you do all these things, realize that she will go off on you every now and then anyway because of hormones and feeling fat-etc. We do not mean to--but we sometimes blame the other person because we feel fat--cant wear our old clothes, don't look the same etc. We also somtimes don't think straight or overeact to things because hormones affect out ability to think right. Just hang in there with her and do the best you can.
2006-11-08 00:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hormones!
I know my hubby is having a hard time with this pregnancy. We have an 8 month old and things are just chaotic! But, what I say and how I feel is completely hormonal. I have no control over my emotions, words, thoughts, or even dreams. It's really hard for me feeling like I'm an alien...and wondering what happened to myself!
I know sometimes I wake up after a crazy dream. One was that he was having an affair with a woman we knew five years ago. She was a dive instructor on a trip to Mexico. And, I woke up so pi$$ed off. I didn't tell him about the dream, but soon my actions told him something was wrong. I'm just not good at hiding feelings either - even if they are completely irrational.
Your woman is probably really confused herself. And, she probably feels foreign to herself. Which would make anyone feel uneasy.
I love it when my hubby just calls or emails to say hey. Or, will bring me some flowers just because. He even bought me my favorite chocolates (even though I've been too sick to eat them, lol). Just knowing he's there is just what I need to know!!
2006-11-08 03:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that are showing concern for her during this time. I commend you for that. Well you have to understand that there is a whole lot going on inside her body and mind right now. She is feeling every different feeling she could possible feel. She is not being mean, unless she is the same way now that she has always been. Best advice I can give to you is, be very patient with her, I know that you are probably very frustrated but, put your self in her shoes. She is gaining weight, maybe feeling insecure about herself, she is loosing control of her emotions. So, try and let a lot of things roll of your back. Remember that a lot of what she says, she probably does not mean. Just console her when she needs you and do things for her every once in a while to show her you care for her. Hope that helps, take care, and good luck. By the way, Congrats!
2006-11-08 01:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hormones in pregnant women are out of control, especially 2 weeks after birth when the hormones are trying to get back to normal. Just hang in there, and roll with the changes, when the hormones are really crazy my OB claimed its a girl because the female already has estrogen and when you are pregnant with a girl you are making more estrogen, so you are a high on estrogen
and that makes her a little moody!
2006-11-08 00:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lady X 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. Better yet, tell her best girlfriends that you want to do everything in your power to make her happy. Ask them for suggestions/tips. They will be able to help.
Sometimes the hormones and just the mental adjustment of being pregnant can make women irritable and insecure. A woman's whole body is being taken over and re-shaped to take care of another person. Sometimes you can't eat, drink, sleep or go to the bathroom without realizing how it impacts the baby. It can be crazy-making.
Tell her you love her frequently and talk to the girlfriends---or sisters or mom---and they will help you out. Plus, they'll see how much you care and maybe put in a good word for you if she gets too nuts.
Congrats and best wishes!
2006-11-08 00:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by bookmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I feel so bad for you. Some men really go through h*ll when a woman is pregnant. It's the pregnancy hormones. Surely it's nothing personal and she's not just trying to be mean. Try to stay as sane as possible and most of all talk to her gently about things. (yes, you have to watch how you word even the gentlest conversation sorry to say LOL) When you have that little bundle of joy in your arms for the first time, it will all be worth it!!!! Good luck and congrats!!!!
2006-11-08 01:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, forgive her, I do think it's the pg hormones...my husband is going thru the same thing..we just talked about it a few days ago...I said it's nothing personal, I just don't feel the same and I don't know why (the answer here is pg hormones). I don't feel like my usual self, I'm constantly moody, and I know he has been very patient with me...Just think in some months it'll be over...a pregnancy hits hard on us...our body changes, everything hurts, we have hard time sleeping with a big belly, and we still have to work and make breakfast,lunch and dinner. Just talk to her about how are you feeling, sometimes we don't realize that we're being mean...Maybe she'll be easier on you. Good luck
2006-11-08 00:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋