2006-11-08 00:17:23 · 12 answers · asked by ilove2partty 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Time to find a new boyfriend. Sorry.
2006-11-08 00:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by CrankyYankee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him how he feels about the porn? It could be just curiosity or a way of making him feel he is not alone. It could just be he is bored with other kinds or perhaps he feels you won't be jealous of this sort. In answer to your other question, I am engaged to a preop transexual and our love life is amazing. I knew they dressed almost immediately and that their previous partner did not approve and had set guidelines which had been stuck to for years, but as the rest of the relationship was falling apart, she decided to make a stand and actually say that dressing indoors, out of sight was not enough and she was going to go out. When I heard I couldn't understand the problem and she became my best girl friend, we talked about all the girlie things. Eventually we began seeing each other and left our partners. She went fulltime and changed her name and documentation and got the referral she needed to begin the official process of transitioning. I know that it will be odd after the operation but I'm sure as long as we still have the closeness of the kisses and cuddles I will learn how to make love to her as the woman she will become. You should be aware that not all cd's want more than the emotional release from dressing. Some people just do it for sexual thrills. Others feel that they are trapped in the wrong body and want to dress as female but not all take things further. Sexual orientation is very complicated within the transcommunity but it doesn't normally change after surgery. Some people who say they are straight males will sleep with men when they are dressed, because then they are girls. Equally some will fancy guys and say so. The people who are heterosexual preop will remain so after surgery but will be women sleeping with women. I have never been with a genetic girl but will be sleeping with a female partner once she has GRS. Be aware of these things, but don't get hung up on them. Love him for the person he is. Embrace the different sides to him and make her feel as accepted as him. Once you get used to the switches and your partner becomes relaxed with you and understands your acceptance is total then maybe the pair of you can explore the boundaries together. My OH is much happier as female.
2016-05-21 21:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've asked a number of admitted tranny-chasers what their interest in me was. Most of them claim they see us as the girls we want to be, just with a different set of hangups from 'normal' girls (one guy told me he felt that most modern girls have become too much like guys in that they don't try to be feminine anymore, but trannys aren't like that.) These are the ones that generally do *not* want to see what's under the skirt unless she's post-op.
Some of them are bi, and are just looking for what they think would be the best of both worlds (tho quite a few won't admit it, and want to pretend they're straight.) These guys also prefer the passable or mostly-passable t-girls, but *do* want to see what's inside the panties and aren't that interested in post-op girls.
Some are genuine gay guys who prefer efeminate partners; they still want someone who looks good, but they're not as concerned about passability.
And some are predominately straight guys with gay/bi fantasies, who see us as a way to experiment with those fantasies without giving up their straight-card. I would *guess* this is where your boyfriend is, but really only he would know.
2006-11-08 07:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your bf know they are tyranny's or is he simply fooled by how convincing they look?
If it's the option #1 then tell him they are tyranny's and explain to him what they are. If it's the latter then I would question the relationship you are currently in. Maybe he wants to try a 3-some or maybe he's bi and being experimentive or maybe he's just gay and likes guys who wanna be girls.
Who knows? At any rate you should definitely talk to him and try to square things out before you one day come home and catch him in an "awkward" situation
2006-11-08 00:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by pheirmeizer001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistics show that 72.5% of men and women are "bi sexual" to one degree or another (even if men are in denial about that). Your bf is simply acting out in a subliminal way. Trannies give him permission to look at other guys in a sexual way because they mask that reality with the illusion of femininity. Unless this becomes obsessive, it is quite normal. I suspect that he is also open to wearing some women's apparel himself (one in five straight men have or are wearing women's garments).
2006-11-08 00:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's just a one off it may be a case of simple curiosity. It could be that he finds them attractive or that he himself is questioning his own identity. The best way to find out is to try broaching the subject with him.
2006-11-08 00:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by chris_morganuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are threatened by your b/f looking at someone other than you, then let him go so he can find someone with better self esteem.
2006-11-08 00:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He finds them attractive.
2006-11-08 03:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be as simple as curiosity or he wants to sample the goods.
2006-11-08 00:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas S 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He wants to either be one or have sex with a she-male.
2006-11-08 07:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lori Dawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋