my sister is dating a selfish arogant and total pig of a guy, what can i do?

Question

My sister is an intelligent and stunning woman - shes everything you could ask for in a girl - shes great. she is a mother of one and for a bit has been with a guy who treats her with such disrespect. he's a pig of a guy. he's never treated her to anything never taken her out and is like an animal. he has no nice factor about his personality. but she somehow sees past all that and stays with him anyway - knowing that he's treating her so disrespectfully. She has this friend who she really does like alot - hes so great to her, and her kid! he pays her compliments and ive noticed a spark between them. But she is adiment she wont do anything as shes with this other idiot. What can i do? Me and my sister are extremely close and i dont wanna sit back watching this guy treat her like this much longer.. any advice here would be great plz

Answer 1

If she stays with her boyfriend its because she wants to but maybe the penny will drop regarding this other guy !!!

Answer 2

As they say love is blind and your sister most likely doesn't want to see this guys faults therefore she overlooks how he treats her.

Unfortunately in these situations, more often than not, most people have to learn their lesson the hard way.

However if you and your sister are close, why not try talking to her about the problem? When and if you do discuss this with her make sure of one thing - do not bash her current boyfriend. If you talk badly about him, she will only get defensive and not want to hear anything you have to say. Choose your words carefully so that you can have a discussion with her instead of an argument.

I would start off by telling her that you've noticed this spark between her and the other guy (the friend) and observe how well he treats her. Tell her that you think she deserves a man like him who treats her well and will make her happy as well as get along with her child. Point out all of the good qualities about the friend and it will most likely open her eyes to the bad qualities about her boyfriend. I cannot stress enough that you should not come across as bashing her current boyfriend because it will start an argument which is the last thing you need.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

Well, u can explain in a way that is comforting and try not to criticize or say anything against his current boyfriend.Even if u do want draw a comparison between her boyfriend and her friend do it in a way which is impersonal,subtle and logical.

U can't impose ur own choice onto her as it's her own life and she will probably be hurt if she finds out that u don't like her current boyfriend.U cannot favor anyone and just suggest her so that she gets ur idea.Eventually she will give a thought to it.But do'nt prolong ur conversation over the same "thing" and wait patiently.

Answer 4

What a shame that your sister isn't with a guy who treats her well. Unfortunately there's not a lot you can do - just be there to pick up the pieces - at least she's lucky to have such a great family to support her.

Answer 5

The only thing you can do is tell her how you feel and then you have to stay out of it. And you have to be there for her and thats it, you can't push the matter cuz the more you do the more she will go towads her bf I went threw that with my friends same thing happened I got hurt and they said I told you so yes they were right but it didn't make the hurt less it made it worse. So just tell her how you feel and be there for her and don't ever say "I told you so" it doesn't help.

Answer 6

Your sister might be afraid of the guy she is dating.She does not want to see herself her child or her family in danger,she thinks that she knows more than anyone what he can do.so when you point out all the bad things she is trying to protect everyone.by deniying what is going on.
The best thing you and your family can do is to support her more often by asking to spend time with her,go to the movies if she sys her boyfriend and her had other plans try asking for a diffrent date and time. Remind her you are her sister and not some other guy.Family Offer to baby sit a couple of nights a week.
But first and foremost you and your family need her to understand that you will help her out of the relationship and will be cautious when that has happened.fully supprt your sister .
it took me 3 years and not talking to my family for 2 years to get away friom an abusive boyfriend,because my family supported him and not me.

Answer 7

The advice would be.... your sister needs to find out for herself that she is dating a selfish arrogant and total pig of a guy. The best thing you could do for her is make sure you're around when she realises it for herself - No amount of what you say will make any difference, at worst it will possibly set the glue!

Answer 8

Unfortunately there is not a lot you can do. Love is blind as they say, however if he is like you say she will eventually figure it out for herself, and then you need to be there for her to help pick up the pieces. If you interfere she will not thank you for it and you may end up pushing them closer or the two of you falling out.

Answer 9

Im afraid you cant do anything - ive bene in this situation myself with my sis-in-law. They will never listen to you... in fact all you will do is push her further to him.

Just tell her how you feel and that you will be there for her if she ever needs you. She will find out for herself one day - and until she does, just be there for her.

Answer 10

properly do no longer ask her to purchase you something and tutor her you're extra in charge so she does not think of of you as a infant. additionally tell her she's hurting your emotions. in case you do no longer % to get her something then do no longer however the difficulty on your dating should not be approximately anger as a results of no longer getting textile gadgets you %. sounds such as you adult males produce different matters. you mustn't be so recommend on your sister and that i think of you're appearing egocentric your self. additionally why on earth might you be happy to interrupt her vehicle seat and stroller? in case you wrecked mine i might swat you for the era of your head and make you replace it!!