i know its weird 2 ask on yahoo answers but i need 2 know!!
i was molested 10 years ago from our 15 year old neighbour i was 8! i kept it inside for 9 years then i confronted him and he denied and said that if he did anything 2 hurt me that he is sorry!
i cant tell anyone coz we live in a reserved islamic socity and i feel that i am a freak because of the thought i have! i thought i was gay for a while but now i know it was triggerd by the inccident! i have so much loathing and hatered iside me and i dont know wut 2 do!!
i feel like the devisl son sometimes! i feel weird!
2006-11-07 22:46:24 · 10 answers · asked by F1 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are not alone in this respect. You may seek a psychiatric assistance from a Doctor, if you feel the problem so acute. I would suggest that you get out of the situation wherein you have to meet that person often.
2006-11-07 22:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Our pasts makes us who we are today, however you are an individual and any action of rape that was not your fault does not make you the same as the person attacking you and do not get caught up with the "what ifs" questions to yourself. Look at it this way, under duress, stress, and anger, the mind seeks a way to resolve the issue, whether in thoughts of revenge or in rem/dream sleep, but that is a natural response and only you may accept or deny it. You have already had the courage to confront that guy it's up to you to pursue or not further. I advise you to get some counseling about this and do not let this anger or distaste run or ruin your life. Life is about choices and changes and you control it, not actions of the past.
2006-11-07 23:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM CHANGING WHAT I HAVE STATED
I still say..............
It wasn't your fault and still isn't
This should never happen to any child so Innocent
I changed my statement because NO ONE REALLY CARES ABOUT THE CHILDREN THAT ARE MOLESTED EVERY MINUTED EVERY DAY IN THIS COUNTRY, AND THAT IS THE ONES REPORTED..........Sweep it under the rug HIDE it it's better that way.
To you bleeding-hearts that think a child molester feels bad about what they do .......YOU HAVE NO CLUE.......they do it over and over till they are caught get out of their 6 mon. jail term and do it again .......and if you feel they only do it once think again.....This monster is not sorry or has not forgotten what he has done to this man.....I wonder how many others he has assaulted invaded their bodies...
You who feel for the poor molester most of you must not have kids and should pray to whom you believe in that it never happen to your child. One more thing to thoes of you who know it all about child abuse males do not just prey on males they prey on girls also and girls are molesters to, to girls and boys.....they are young (as you read here) and old
F-1 I am very sorry for what has happen to you. I went through this with my daughter when she was 4 I am 46 it is a very hard thing to go through you do need to talk to a therapist.
Nothing is your fault you were young innocent and praetors know just what to say and do to get to their victim......You will find this true when (which I Hope you do) find a therapist tho help you deal with your feelings
I wish you all the best
2006-11-07 23:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a lot easier said then done, but on some level you have to move your life foward, accept what happen to you( I am not saying you have to accept it in liking it) is there someone you trust that you can talk to? can you pray for help to help you move past this and to begin your life happy and at peace? You are NOT a freak!! Keep telling yourself that, you are having a normal reaction to a horrible situation that you were put into, that you had no control over. The person who did this to you in sick and needs help, and he should be the one walking around feeling like a freak!!! Take it day by day, keep taking deep breaths and reassure yourself you are okay and that you will be okay that you will get throught this. Would it help if you poured out your thought in a journal, just pour everything out? I wish you the best of luck and keep believing in yourself that you ARE going to get past this
2006-11-07 22:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You definitely need the reassurance of a good psychiatrist to get over your self-loathing. What happened to you is NOT your fault, but you need the help to sort through whatever feelings you've been experiencing. You were way too young to be experiencing what happened and it was in no way your fault, no matter how guilty you feel about the incident. Please get some help to deal with your feelings. You'll be ok if you do. Good luck to you as well.
2006-11-07 22:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that some men/boys that molest children feel so guilty and ashamed that their mind buries that deep inside their subconscience (sometimes), or they are too ashamed that of course they will deny it. But I have read that some molestors actually cannot remember it. But that's till no excuse. At least he apologized, most won't do that, they will just deny it ever happened.
As for you having to deal with this - I suggest counseling. Can you get that where you live? Or possibly there is sometype of internet site that counsels or chat room that other people that have been molested go to and help each other thru this.
You are not the devil's son for having hatred in our heart towards this person. This is a normal human emotion to have having been through this. What this person did was an act of violence and an invasion on your body and mind. He is the evil one. Let his Creator deal with him. In America, many grown men are suing their past molestors and being brave to open up about it. They seek help by opening up about it and talking. I'm not usre if you can do that being in an Islamic society. If for sure there is no person, best friend or professional counselor, that you can turn to, turn to your Creator. Pray to Him for strength to get you thru this feeling of hatred. Hatred is a normal emotion but if you let it take over, it can control you. Can you forgive this person that molested you? Forgiveness is the Christian church allows us to move on, knowing that God will fairly judge and take care of the situtation. I was raped when I was 20 and never talked to a counselor about it because I hated to think about it over and over again. It's been 15 yrs now and I have put that behind me and gave it to God to handle. I pray that you will be able to do that same.
Feeling hate doesn't mean you are evil. It's a human emotion and an emotion that warns ourselves that something bad happened. But you shouldn't let it override your life. Forgiveness to that person can help you control that hate feeling and soon your heart and mind will be at peace and you will be able to move on from this. It's definitely wrong what he did and that he isn't being held accountable for this and being punished on earth for it. It there is no way for earthly punishment for him, be assured that he will meet his Creator one day and will have to seek his punishment then.
Peace to you and your mind and heart. You are in my prayers!
2006-11-07 23:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I am so sorry to hear that. First it was so great that you told someone. Oftentimes things of this nature is not told because of shame. And that is so not right. The perpetrator knows this and doesnt care. They are predators. And predators are ruthless. You have held this for a while. Forgive yourself because you did nothing wrong. What you carry is his to own. Forgive him as well. So you can heal.My heart stands for you. Please take care of yourself. I know this all too well. IM me if you want. I will be there.
2006-11-07 23:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should consult a psychiotrist...they deal with all kinds of people like that....you shouldn't be ashamed, but seek help before it gets bad...good luck
2006-11-07 22:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by applewormy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pick up the phone and call a therapist from the phone book if you do not know of one. He/or she will help you alot. Just do it!
2006-11-08 01:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dewy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not feel guilty for what you did not permit to be done to you.if you find a real close friend you may discuss it with them.maybe your parents.pray to God.i know you are a muslim and i do not mean that to attack you.i really meant to help you
2006-11-08 01:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by stefan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋