What Would You Do???????????????

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and i have hardly been out with my mates lyk out drinking coz i am always with him. when i do go out he dosnt like it and gets jealous
i went out on saturday with the girls and i rang him when i got back and said i was stopping at my mates house and he was wingeing on about it then about half an hour later he came banging on her door screaming to let him *** in - i never let him in becoz my mate was being sick and she didnt want any1 in her house coz she was ill we then were sitting in the sitting room and we seen shadows at her bedroom window and we say him spying on me and my mate to see who i was in the house with
he obvoisly thought that we had brought lads bck from the town
this obvoisly meens that he dosnt trust me and thinks he has the right to spy on me !!!! what would you do if that was ur boyfriend ????

sorry i put this in this section you just seem to get more answeres thanxs every1 xxx

1 hour ago
i actually rang him and told him i was staying in with her and we were just having a nite in coz i hadnt been out with her in ages and once he had spyed in he cud see that there was only me and her in there so i wernt cheating

NO WE WENT OUT but then when i got bck thats when i rang him to say i was staying at hers with her coz she wernt well

Answer 1

Watch you back, we read to many stories about possessive men, if he is doing this to you, there is no trust on his part, he will NEVER change, and dont fool yourself to believing he will, if you carry on with him, say getting engaged, married, having a family, do you really, and I mean really believe that after the way he behaved at the weekend, he would react any differently in the future. You have to be able to have your own life, even if you decide to share your life with him. Sorry for the negativity, but, have been there and done it, bought the tshirt, and dumped him.

Answer 2

I think the best thing for you to do is to talk to him. I have been with my guy almost 6 months now and he gets jealous of my guy friends but he would never do anything like that especially not if I told him I was at a girlfriends. Tell him what he did was uncalled for and that he needs to put more trust in you. Hanging out with your man is great but sometimes you just need to chill with your girls. Let him know that he isn't getting away with this and if he still continues to do it then I would think a break up would be the best. However no one can tell you when to break up with someone. Just think about everything that has happened when your alone and decide if it is best to continue your relationship or not. But as a lot of people say communication is the key, if you don't talk to the guy you can't know whats going on.

Answer 3

Do you give him any reason not to trust you is the first question you should ask yourself,boot on the other foot how would you feel if he went out with the lads and rang you at the end of the night? and please dont say you wouldn't think the worse,trust or not you cant help those thoughts. Think about how you would like to be treated and treat him with the same respect. Have a good chat about it and if this is the guy is for you then make him see it...

Answer 4

It's hard to be with someone doesn't trust us and have suspicious thoughts. and that bad behave he had it doesn't came suddenly, So u should notes it before, in the beginning of ur relation, why u let 1 year pass without make this problem solved, coz maybe in the beginning if u discuss that u don't like these kind of relation and he have to change his attitude so think work out between u both, if u can do that now before he get worse, have a calm conversation with him and be honest, answer all his Q's and tell him that u trust him and he should do the same, and if he have friends, he hang out with them , why you shouldn't.

Answer 5

there is no easy answer. he's not doing anything that a 100 guys have done before him. hes the jealous type. and its not he doesn't trust YOU hes a bloke he doesn't trust other blokes. He can't understand why every bloke in the world (given the chance) wouldn't want to sleep with you. get someone to tell him that they saw you out on that night and absolutely no guys were allowed into the company, go to the extent of saying you were acting like a bunch of stuck up bitches who thought they were gods gift. This might buy you some time until you get a ring on your finger and then he won't give a dam. good luck

Answer 6

Ok so you lied and said you were staying in but that doesn't merit him stalking you. Honesty is the key here, for both of you. Communiation is imperative. If you lied about staying in with your mate surely he's justified in assuming you could lie about other stuff. But if you'd been honest and communicated with him perhaps the situation would have turned out differently. As for what you do next, only you can answer that one. Is he capable of trusting you? If you talk, clear the air and agree to start out fresh would he be able to let you go out without following you? If you don't think he will, you know in your heart that there is no future for you together.

Answer 7

Dump him. Sorry to be brutal but if he's stopping you seeing your friends and throwing wobblies when you spend time with them, he's clearly very controlling and insecure and there is nothing you can do to fix him. No amount of love or self sacrifice will help because there will always be something, your friends, family, job - makinghim freak out. Sorry honey. Its the thin end of the wedge.

Answer 8

No trust - no relationship. I stay the night at my friends and leave my kids with my partner he doesn't bang on the door. Trust is a two way thing and personally he wants to control you....

Can not see this relationship going anywhere!!

Answer 9

I guess it is not really nice to tell someone to break up with their boyfriend because it should be your decision but if I was in your place I would really lay down the law for him ! Tell him that you need some "me" time too with your friends and if he doesn't want to accept it then get out he is not good for you !

Answer 10

I would absolutely dump him. Sorry, but that is boarder-line stalking, completely aggressive and a bit scary.

You don't need that kind of controller in your life. Dump him, move on!